its not my kids that bover me so much its their friends?

Question

this boy conner stayed and i do not like him, he spat on the social workers car the other was going on to the social about drugs and things and hes 11 and i don,t like her going round with them. she says she wants her friends to stay again, what on earth does she see in them, i am not haveing them in any more, the boy said i made him feel real angry cos i shouted at him, it was 2pm in the morning and they were making loads of noise i don,t want these kids around, do you think i am being reasonable.

Answer 1

I would end that friendship real quick

Answer 2

you need to ave a serious chat with you child n tell them the reasons y u dnt like him n y she does and your feelings about him n how you are afraid they may effect your child. but if you make this into a situation where u say u r not hanging with him then it will get out of control cos she will make more of an effort to see him and be led into the wrong crowed

Answer 3

If you don't like the kids being there, then tell your kid. Or you could just tell the kids that it's either your rules, or they have to leave. My mother would never put up with me or my brothers friends if she felt like they didn't respect her or something, and i would never bring someone that i thought would disrespect my mother or her rules or house home with me. Like the first person said, you're the adult, take charge!

Answer 4

yes ginger is right, take control, its your house , your rules, and your daughter is only 11 and may become influenced by this conners loutish disrespectful behaviour! explain to her exactly why you dont like her friend and tell her you dont mind her friends staying but the ones who have respect for adults

Answer 5

For goodness sake you are the parent and you make the rules about who you want to stay under your roof.Your daughter had a boy staying ?That is risky.

Answer 6

unfortunately, parents cant choose their kids mates and if she wants to hang around with these idiots, let her- she'll have to learn hard way.

if shes been brought up right, she will know not to get involved in bad things and will soon realise these people are not nice people. but if she does something naughty, please dont blame her-shes trying to fit in and every one has to find out the hard way, but ground her so she knows shell get punished.

i have to admit, you are very brave to let boys sleep over at such a young age. my mum wouldnt let me hang around with lads until i was able to make desissions for myself. obviously, at that age, noting will go on, but its getting into the habbit of having them over and she'll expect them to sleep over when she gets older.(thats when things happen)

id get out of the habbit of letting lads stay over or she wont see why you wont let her when she experiences puberty.

dont be too hard on her with rules and friends though or she might resent you through her teens and it will cause problems.

why not sit with your girl and discuss things so you both have an open relationship and she feels that she can tell you things without you going off on one, never shout at her if she comes to you with a prob, discuss to her that she has done wrong but shes been responsible for telling you about this and she has to deal with it. this way you will have no probs with her telling you things when the teens come.

remember- dont make her feel she cant come to you with probs as it will cause probs between a mother and daughter relationship.

Answer 7

Ginger is absolutely right. Take control of the situation before they take control of you. It's your house and it's up to you to decide who stays under your roof.

Answer 8

Hell no. You know whats better for your child. Thats why your the parent.

Answer 9

Are you the adult or the child. It is your house your rules

Answer 10

SEND THEM ALL ROUND HIS HOUSE.