i am currently in a 9 month relationship with my boyfriend. he loves me very much, and has changes a lot for me. however our reltaionship is getting pretty boring and there are no sparks flying. this is when i met a hot guy, and i found myself falling for him. he likes me too and we have the potential of starting a relationship.
what should i do?
dump my current boyfriend and be with him?
stick with my boyfriend and try to forget him?
or.............. two time???
2007-01-19 21:25:05 · 21 answers · asked by apple-licious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you hussy
2007-01-19 21:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think about it. When you met this boy 9 months ago you probably like what he did, now you're probably settling into the same routine.
New guy comes along, same prospects. People are false darlin. They put up a front to get in your panties, then when they do the truth starts setting in.
They guy you're dating maybe boring because he is comfortable with you. You need to tell him that your bored and see if he can liven things up a bit, if not and you cant take it move on.
But You may run into a situation where this new guy might be looking for one thing, or a few things if you get me drift.
If he's a hot guy. I think you may have competition you may find out about after you start dating him.
So whatever you decide good luck with that. Just don't lock your heart into anything yet
2007-01-20 05:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by kinev2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last question first. No. Do not have two BFs at the same time; you'll ruin both relationships and, in your circle, the guys will know you cannot be trusted.
Dumping your boyfriend, mmmm, "no sparks, pretty boring". Welcome to the world of adult love. God invented those sparks to get us interested in someone; He didn't intend that they would always be there. Now that the sparks have evaporated, it's time to really get to know your BF. The best is yet to come.
Stick with BF and "try to forget him". Well, you know you can't forget those sparks, but you can concentrate on BF#1. For the rest of your life, you will be struck with stray sparks. Can't do anything about that; you can do something about your behavior and attitudes.
Adult love is more rich, more deep, and more fulfilling that I ever dreamed of. I was a "spark chaser" but finally settled down (in my 40s) and have never felt cheated. I feel blessed. Good Luck you ...
2007-01-20 05:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 time and you just might get caught and get a bad reputation
stick with your current bf and work on making your relationship more interesting.. go out and do things together even if you got to pull him off the couch to do so, suprise him with dinner or a gift, turn the lights out and light some candles in the bedroom or in the bath with a nice hot bubble bath.. this just might wake him up and let him know what you like and what you want to do, or you could just sit down and talk to him.. talking always helps.. this other guy might be hot, but is he worth leaving a 9 month relationship for? what happens if you leave your current bf and start with this new one and things dont work out, im not so sure the old bf would take you back knowing that you left him for another guy..
good luck!
2007-01-20 05:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend loves you, the key here is do you love him like he loves you, all relationships hit stale points and road blocks whether or not you work through them is most telling if you are going to last, this new hot guy may seem like a new, fun thing and he will be fun and exciting for awhile until you go out with him for 9 months and you meet another newer, funner, hotter guy, dont repeat the cycle I say if this guy you are currently dating is the one for you please stay with him, for his sake....if it's not in your heart to be with him then you know what you have to do....I say put in the effort to make your relationship more exciting, it will pay off.
Also, whatever you do, DO NOT two-time these guys, they deserve the truth and this tactic will just end up getting you in trouble, no matter how careful you think you are being.
2007-01-20 05:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by cubs_9999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you think about it. Obviously a new guy will seem different and exciting, but what would you give up in the process? is it worth it? how well do you know this new guy, and even if you start a relationship does it have potential to last? don't cheat. either leave him or forget the other guy.
2007-01-20 05:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. Sounds like you really aren't happy with the current relationship. So why stick with it? Yes, it'll suck still. Break-ups normally suck for both sides of it, but if the relationship was right then you wouldn't be thinking of being with another guy. You're just not that into the current guy. Find a guy you really are into.
2007-01-20 05:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You people NEVER put you're age in these Q's. You already answered your own question. It ain't working with the guy #1. You are ga-ga over guy #2. The question should be why stay with guy #1 when you want to be with guy #2? You have feelings of guilt easily which means your a kind person. Lose the guilt, do what makes you happy
2007-01-20 05:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
it is on you.
In my opinion contentment is a good and Holy value.
If i were in your shoes I would try to care and cure the existing relationship, protecting and imporouving an existing relation is more important than creatting another.
What can assure you that you will not miss the otherone in the same way.
It 's good chalenge for you both to creat love again and again...
Good luck
2007-01-20 05:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by arash m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never two time, leave the one your with if you want this other dude. You will have more respect not only from them both but for yourself as well. Once a cheat always a cheat, if a girl I am seeing tells me she cheated on a man in her past I cannot allow myself to trust her and it affects the relationship even if I keep quite at the time of learning it I look at her differently and know there is no future between us. Don't cheat it may cost you the man of your dreams someday.
-NmD!
2007-01-20 05:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you decide yourself, who is more important..
if new guy.. then speak to old.. that your feels have gone down, Instead if ending relation just at once... Try to end it slowly.. And end it.. in a nice way..
Other side, if u still feel more about old one..Talk to him.. Express yourself.. how u feeling.. and how you would like relationship to be. Once you clear it.. you will find a differnce.. arrange some holidays... go out..
2007-01-20 05:47:50 · answer #11 · answered by deepak_k_rana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋