My girlfriend manages our finances and my monthly salary get paid directly into her account, she has the only atm and credit card but gives me enough to get by each week. This has worked well for the past 6 months, however, 2 weeks ago she wouldn't give me any money until I gave her my yahoo password and all the phone numbers in my mobile phone. This week she made me kneel to her when asking for some money back and told me I would have to do this to her from now on. Is this normal or is she getting a bit kinky? I am affraid what she will make me do next. I would die if we ever broke up the trouble is she knows it too. Any advice?
2007-01-19 20:48:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say quite normal, but if I came home one day and there is a big, bald, buff dude named Bruno standing in your house holding a watermelon and a bottle of lube....I'd run for your life!!!!
2007-01-19 20:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, im married and never manage money of each other, such is not good when you don't put money together when you are married.
I dont understand why your salary goes to her account, this is not only wierd, also you cannot have atm card?
I don't have credit card for the last 5 years and Im still eat, and live, I'm alive!, you only should use credit in big purchases, so don't worry to do not get one , until you will need it for real.
eventually you need to buildyour credit.
That is not nice for her to ask you yoour passwords, I m married and neverhave my husbands password, the numbers of your mobile? well she should know your friends I agree.
But not your passwords , ( you are not even married!)
make you kneel to her? Ho ho ho ho she really taking advantge of this power money you gave her, or the company you guys work for, she is not nice! at all.
Start putting some limits on this that every body is happy with it, like she has to giv eyou certain money every time and no beggs no tricks no kneeling no kinky .
If she doesn't fallow then she is not worth it, then you better know now than after :) ( after you get in the real s**** of marriegue)
2007-01-20 04:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by JUST ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be a little more assertive. It's your money and an equal partnership. She seems to be really paranoid about something and won't fully trust you. Little by little she's taking away your freedoms. And that isn't right. You should have the same amount of access to YOUR money as she does.
What kind of relationship is it where you fully trust your girlfriend but she NEVER trusts you? A bad one, that's what. She's taking advantage of you, dude. First, you need to talk to her about this and let her know that it's not okay for her to treat you like this. If she ignores your request, she really doesn't care for you. Then, you need to go to the bank and get a second atm card for yourself. Even if you don't know anything about finances, ask her to teach you. You can at least write down what you spent with the atm card and give the list to her later.
Remember, a relationship is a two-way street. Both have to give and take. You're giving, giving, giving and she's taking, taking, taking. This needs to even out.
2007-01-20 04:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough. You are the man, she should respect you and not expect you to play silly little head games. Get everything changed back. If not, get a new account and CC and tell her this is the way it is going to be. If she doesn't like it , there's the door. I hate being a woman sometimes when some act like this.
2007-01-20 05:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man she's so controlling and she's not even the wife. Why would you let her do that? It's your money from your paycheck, you should not beg her to get your money. The answer is, that's NOT normal. Get your salary transfered to your own bank account. Don't be such a p* whip.
2007-01-20 04:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read some of your other questions, and you sound like a nutcase. You deserve anything you get. Grow up. Stop asking such stupid questions. Maybe go do your homework. That should keep you busy for awhile.
2007-01-20 04:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O)o you've gotta be kindding me? dude your an adult get your own bank account. It's your money your not married and it sounds to me like she's playing games with you.
2007-01-20 04:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get you own money account yes she is getting kinky dummy
2007-01-20 04:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, not sure what to say to this question! First of all is it your money aswell? and if so why dont you have your own bank? She sounds like she is mocking u! Maybe she thinks she u are cheating on her!
2007-01-20 05:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Laura J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mat, put the bong down and read some of the responses to your questions. I'm really trying to help out here. Humor is difficult and you're not doing a very good job of it. Please listen to me, your questions are, quite frankly, getting painfully unfunny.
2007-01-20 04:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋