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Question

do you think suicide is a easy way out yes or no why?????
my friend is suicidal he keeps gettin put in hospital i've been friends with him forever and i care but its hard and im a cutter in recovery and it makes it hard for me to be around him what should i do???????? aaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhhhh help

the hard part is that im suicial tooo and it makin my recovery hard !!!!!

Answer 1

It is not easy, or I would have done it long ago. I'm awfully glad now that it's not easy, because My Steve committed suicide on December 16, 2005, and let me tell you, the experience for the one left behind is too horrible for anyone to want to wish on another, no matter how unloved you feel or unhappy you are at a given moment.

I have forgiven him, and come to understand pretty well why he did it, but I was one of the comparatively lucky ones: Steve did talk about it. We had our discussions of the philosophy of liberty, and how it inevitably involves a right to suicide as a last option.

We expressed our sympathy for the samurai philosophy which says it is an appropriate way to atone for a failure which has caused the lives of others. We supported the work of Dr. Kevorkian in making the end easier for those with terrible pain.

And I have come to believe that he honestly believed that (a) I was strong enough to survive the black period he was willing on me by his suicide, and (b) I would forgive him.

I was, and I have, but oh, it has been hard. Not easy; you just shift the hard to someone else, often someone who really does not deserve it.

Maybe I deserved it; I don't know. I know it's been hard. Still is, come to that, though it's been over a year and mourning time is officially over.

Answer 2

It can be a very hard way out. I can attest to that because I have considered it myself. The real question is not just for yourself, but for others. Your presence may be just the thing that helps someone that you don't even know continue on for another day. I wouldn't ask, because being confrontational in that manner might get you the answer that you don't want to hear. There again, someone might say yes, you do make a positive difference to me. Life is never easy, but to me, there is a mission for me to accomplish. I can't give in to my desire because my decision might be one that harms an innocent person. I find that people that I meet, however briefly are better for our having met. A kind word, an act that is good, a discovery found at some other time, and is now spoken of may be just the thing that makes life a little better for the other person. Where I am now, there are challenges that I face daily. It might be easier to just check out permanently, but how would that affect others around me? Do I really have the right to deny others of my experience that might be useful to them? I say no, it is not my place. I place the value of others above my own, and I decide that they should have the benefit of my abilities and knowledge to help them, even if I gain no help from them. It is your decision, but is it fair to be selfish?

Answer 3

You have to take care of yourself first, or else you will not be of use to anyone. So only you know how bad it is for you to be around your friend. If you decide it is too hard, tell your friend good-bye until he finds a way to stop being suicidal. The way, believe it or not, is in eating healthy. He (using in the sense of him or her) needs to start taking a good, refrigerated cod liver oil such as Carlsons - a tablespoon a day (actually every one should, I believe, including you) and needs to cut out junk food - all sugar (like soda), most starches, bad fats (french fries) - eat lots of fresh or frozen fruits and vegetables, eggs, some meat, fish, and dairy (easy) - he can sweeten with Sweet Leaf stevia - the only safe sugar substitute. I recommend taking a food based supplement like Alive! or Garden of Life. And I also recommend staying away from tap water - the fluoride and chlorine are bad for us. It is not all or nothing, but the more you do for your health, of course the better. Also exercise as much as possible. The rampant epidemic of mental health issues in our country is due mostly to the terrible diets we eat. Our stomachs are called the second brain for a reason - they are intimately connected. As a recovering cutter, it would help you a lot to also try to follow these guidelines. You must be strong to handle all the stess of life and to be strong, you must eat right.

Answer 4

I have a random bit of input here.

But all of my really good friends, me included, have been suicidal at one time or another. We've all had some dire straits, and severe issues. I am a cutter like you, and I've been hospitalized for that. My friends were there for me. They really helped. I'm not completely over it, but sometimes they're the only people there for me.

And I'd hate myself if I didn't do the same for them.

So I guess what I'm trying to say, in a way I don't seem to be getting across too well: The fact that the both of you are going through some rough times could either bring you both down, or raise you up. Sink or swim together. And try not to focus too much on how hard it is, because the rewards of a friendship like that are amazing. I bet he's someone you feel you can talk to (or am I completely off here?), and since you've known him so long I bet he feels like family. This is a strong friendship, made all the stronger by the pain you both share. It can be the hardest kind of relationship, when neither of you feels strong, but I've found sometimes that my suicidal friends can really bring out my strengths at times.

EDIT: Call it insomnia, but I saw the detail you added and I just had to add more details to my answer in response.
There have been times when I was so shocked/frightened by some of the things I heard my friends tell me about the way they felt (e.i. when one was literally planning out his own death) that it nearly drove me suicidal. I don't know what the answer is really. You may feel like you're not qualified to help him, but trust me you can. And you may even find you lift yourself up trying to help. Most of the time when I was trying to discuss this with my friends I was also half-way trying to convince myself to stay alive as well.
I know it's got to be one of the most trying situations, especially if you feel like he's really bringing you down. You can't stand to walk away to spare your own sanity, but at the same time you feel like it'd be best for you. But you don't want them out of your sight because you'd regret it forever if you missed an opportunity to save them.
It's almost like ice trying to melt ice. Nearly impossible, but if it's accomplished it's amazing.
Gosh I hope I don't sound too corny. I think that analogy could have been skipped, but the insomnia disinhibits me, sorry.

Answer 5

Ok, you already said you were a cutter in recovery so that shows you desire a change. Now try to convince your friend to get on the same page with you. You are progressing and try to convince him that he needs to go in that same direction. Don't let him bring you down. Tell him you need his help and both of you will figure a way out of this downward spiraling thing.
I know you want to help him but, if after all your attempts, he is not willing to help himself...what can you do?
You are on the way out of that. Try to help him out but don't let him bring you back down into it.
If he gives you an ultimatum, tell him you are going down the road to a better life.
It sounds as though you love him dearly, but he has to get out of it....honestly, try tough love

Answer 6

Whether it's hard or not to be around him stick it out he needs you right now learn from his example suicide is not the best option you leave people in tatters behind huge funeral bills for your family and your friend would have to go through what he is alone.
People need you things always get better, see a doctor get medication and therapy don't leave others stranded behind

Answer 7

"suicide is the easy way out" is the easy way out of an uncomfortable conversation for people who refuse to listen. it's not easy to do. it's hardly cowardly. and it isn't a "permanent solution to temporary problems" either. most people who commit suicide had problems that were long standing and showed no signs of letting up.

all i can advise is proper medical treatment. i have personally, finally had success with an antidepressant called parnate after over a decade of different medicines that didn't work. but i have major depressive disorder; if you \ your friend have other conditions (bipolar, etc) a different medication is probably best.

Answer 8

no. our life is a gift from God. it is the Almighty Creator who gives us life so its only him alone who has d right to take it back... doing suicide is a mortal sin... from God.

youre such a good friend to be around. since you've been a "best friend" to your suicidal friend, then be as always. it is good to know that someone really cares... as your friend needed you. keep it up. try to advise your friend that suicide is not a solution no matter how hard or big the problem is. try to resolve his /her problem. as they say in every problem there is always a solution. KEEP UP D GOOD FRIENSHIP... God bless...

Answer 9

not an easy task but its mental retardation and if a man is mentaly disturb he can do any thing easily firsty try to help him to think as a normal person

Answer 10

wow um.. you should beg him to get help from a perfessional my friend is sucidal to and im trying my hardest to gether help