Ever date a guy who really wasn't opt for sex right away? Preferred to wait a few months before taking that step in the relationship? Around 6 months? In other words wanted to get to know you better before getting physical.
Would you think that it was conspicuous?
Would you think he had some emotional problems?
Or would you just take it in stride?
2007-01-19 19:56:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a good man.. Take it in stride!
2007-01-19 19:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have gone out with a guy like that, and I have to say it can be stressful from a woman's point of view. We're very insecure creatures us women, and to have guy not make a move on us for that long makes us start to think that maybe there's something wrong with us. I think as long as the guy explains where he's coming from, and reassures her (not just vocally but through actions) that he does find her attractive, there's no reason why it shouldn't work and the girl will appreciate it in the end.
2007-01-19 21:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by kizzarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can be happy if i met with such kind of a Guy. love is not sex and at the same time is not money. When you are in love you have to get to know eachother before indulging to anything. after all sex is not a proof of love, U can do more things to let somebody know that you truly love. That one can be a lovely B/friend. I cant think that he have some problems, he is nice.
2007-01-19 20:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lissa b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is rather long--at that length of time, i just would not take you seriously as a candidate for my guy.
of course it is very important that you tell the woman that you want that you would prefer to get to know her better before going into that most splendid realm of sex. but to wait THAT long is a little too much.
i know this woman that married a man like that. it turned out that he masturbated compulsively in the shower. he did not change his behavior when they got married. my poor friend would cry because she did anything he wanted. she was extremely pretty and wore nice dresses that he liked, pretty and lacy and very feminine, not cheesy, negligees, any way to attract him to their bed. she talked to him, she pleaded with him to share his love with her but he was addicted to his selfish habit. he was, in my opinion, only half a man. that is sick. when you are serious about a woman, you and she should enjoy the pleasures of intimacy.
the people that i tell you about even went to marriage counseling and eventually to sex therapy. first, her husband said that his physician told him he need spinal manipulation by a chiropractor, which he got. psychologically, he then acted like a man, but only for a short time. that's because his problem was not physical, it was mental. the woman felt ignored and saddened by the actions of her husband. she told me that he even would make these "dates" to have sex with her for perhaps, a tuesday morning. when that time came around, she said, she'd cuddle close to him in bed and begin to make love to him. but he would push her away! can you imagine your wife literally pushing you away? jeeeeeez!!! then since she knew, via the counseling, what his problem was, she'd ask him if he had been pleasuring himself in the shower again, and he would admit that he had been! this is outrageous! they got divorced. no man that the woman ever talked to after that said he prefers pleasuring himself when he has a wanton woman waiting for him.
sexuality is normal. there is a very sick attitude in the united states, since it is based on the puritans. puritans did not even want their children (or themselves) to dance since it is a little sexual. do you think that that approach is any good for anyone? to deny their sexuality due to old fashioned beliefs?
i know what my friend would think (that maybe he is gay), and i know that i think that that my boyfriend had some kind of emotional problem and that if were to proceed, that we would not have a healthy, loving, sexual life.
the only way to work on it is by communication. talk to the girl, whoever she may be. see what she feels about it too. i'd say 3 months is plenty.
2007-01-19 20:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never dated a guy like that, but I am a guy like that. Women find it peculiar that someone would be that way, this day and age. It's hard for a "NICE GUY" to win, when most women today think you're looking for 1 night stands.
2007-01-19 20:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by todd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think the guy is one hell of a nice guy. Its nice to know that a guy would like to get to know someone 1st and wait before getting physical.
2007-01-19 20:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there are guys out there who want to wait for MARRIAGE. I don't know why everyone always thinks men need to have sex whenever they can! I believe men can have morals AND self control!
2007-01-19 20:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria Love-Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First date sex? Hell no. Friends with benefits? Yes years ago
2016-05-24 00:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating doesn't equal sex. Sex doesn't equal dating.
2007-01-19 20:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys think with their pen1s. that's my conclusion.
it's a good tattic if a guy tells a me that he wants to wait, until i'm ready for it, or to show me that he's not after me for that.
but if I decide to throw myself at him and he says no, then hell ya i'd think he's gay...or possibly a shy virgin?!
2007-01-19 20:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋