We have been dating for a year now. I thought he was the love of my life, but it turns out I'm wrong. I am emotionally unstable and cannot process anything right now. Please help me.
2007-01-19 19:46:42 · 19 answers · asked by Fairy* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why this happened suddenly? If he was really gay, he would not have dated you in the first place.
I think he's merely using this as an excuse to break up with you (he's probably found some other woman now)
2007-01-19 19:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to cry over it, anyway it will be useless to make him understand. But I'm sure u'll meet someone who deserve ur love soon and have faith and be courageous till then. In the time being get back to the life without him.
All that I can say is that that in future before going out with someone make sure he's a gay. And u must feel lucky to find the truth about it and that its not too late now!
I can suggest u to look for a more attractive and normal boy
2007-01-19 20:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's gay so your romantic relationship with him is over. Completely over. I don't mean to be harsh but the quicker that you realize that, the quicker you'll start recovering.
In some ways it's like any other break-up and in some ways it's very different. He's going through a very difficult time now also. Yes he lied to you but he didn't know what else to do.
Him being gay has nothing to do with you. You are just the woman that he picked to help him hide his true identity. I'm sorry that you had to go through this but you did.
You might want to see some counseling or therapy to help you through this. This isn't a normal break-up. Good luck.
2007-01-19 19:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about that...it happens quite a lot. You might be able to stay friends, y'all may be soulmates in a friendship kind of way . Society puts a lot of pressure on guys to be straight, so much that many men commit suicide over confusion and guilt. Many gay guys try to be straight because they feel it is what our society, family, religion demands. You can probably find a support group on the internet, I've heard of a group for wives/ex-wives of gay men, the ladies there may be able to give you support and insight at least 'till you get more stable emotionally. I hope you are gonna be ok, I know this is a very dificult situation.
2007-01-19 20:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can still be the 'love your life', just not YOUR way. You now have a lifelong best friend. Ask for HIS advice. He would probably be adept at pointing you toward the right guy.
Watch "Will and Grace" ! I know it's only a TV show, but you may be able to get some insight on your relationship with this guy.
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2007-01-19 19:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so your mr right turns out to be mr left.
i think maybe you should sit down and talk too him maybe he is confused because you have been dating for a year and he is only just telling you now seems a bit strange to me.he could have been in denial and being with you helped him see what he really wants i think that makes you a special person. you have to get out there and find someone who is going to want you for you and not just as an excuse. stay good friends with him as he feels comftable enough to talk to you. a few of my friends are gay and one of them told me he didnt fancy girls after we had been together for a couple of years he was just frightened of the stigma . you obviously need someone too talk to and offload on. have you spoke to your family or close friends. they will support you through this time. good luck honey
2007-01-19 20:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by allyson w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats rough. but you must know that you will not be able to "convert" him. apparently, you were his attempt at heterosexuality, and it didnt work for him. in reality, it amounts to rejection of a lover, just like a man rejecting a woman for another woman. it hurts, and you go a little nuts for a while, and at some point ,you see how much you have gone down hill, and you dust yourself off, improve yourself, and go on, a little wiser.it may seem like you will never get over the pain, but you absolutely will- guaranteed! best wishes
2007-01-19 20:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre probably feeling a little helpless right now because theres nothing you can do, unless you grow a penis overnight. this exact thing happened to my friend and even after he left her she hung on hoping that he would change someday but ended up hurting herself more. if your boyfriend hasnt dumped you yet then u may still have hope. if yall are over, theres really nothing you can do. that situation just kinda sucks.
2007-01-19 19:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very lucky for finding it now before it is too late.. If i was u i would be devestated.. By the way is Bi.. For god sake move on and a find a real man who is straight ..
2007-01-19 19:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should move on because there is no point fighting a loosing battle he isn't attracted to women and guess what honey... You are all woman.
Tell him hurry up and get gone!
2007-01-19 19:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋