I have had thoughts of leaving her before but we worked through them. i am now attracted to a schoolmate and think she may be too. i am wondering if the feelings of wanting another woman alone warrant me to break up with my fiance.
2007-01-19 19:46:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW! Sounds like you probably aren't sleeping much these days...so much confusion....what do I do? when do I do it?
kinda like that old song"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" by The Clash....if I go there will be trouble.....and if I stay it will be double!
You Do The Math....Follow your inner gut feelings....a relationship comes with ups and downs but when another person is now involved it's time to step outside the box and take a really close look at what you are doing and what is going to make YOU happy...not everyone else.
Chances are you may not even end up with the one your developing feelings for...but obviously your subconcious mind is telling you the current engagement is not enough for you....
if it were....you wouldn't be questioning it now would you?
hmmmmmmmmm
2007-01-19 19:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by JULIA T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious commitment but don't you think that you might be getting cold feet? If you are you should try to set your priorities straight and fix this. If not then you don't love that person and you are already saying that you have thoughts to leave and you aren't happy. When someone says that they are sort of happy in a relationship then I take it as though they aren't and I would say that you shouldn't get married at all. This marriage would end up in a divorce making some lawyers rich and bugging out a magistrate so why don't you just get with the program, cut your loses and save this poor girl some more heart ache. I think that you should do some serious soul searching and when you find yourself then you should make a choice. Are you sure that you want to throw away an engagement for a feeling... I mean if it isn't there anymore for the person that you are engaged to then you should move on. Makes no sense that you are unhappy in your relationship.
2007-01-19 20:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not engaged to your very best friend GET OUT NOW!!! Dont draw it out and make it harder, these should be the best times you have with that person besides maybe the first few months of marriage. Why get in a hurry to get married anyway? Take a break, think it over. There is no rush to get married and if you decide you really do love her down the road then maybe try it again. But if you doubt that, the best thing you could ever do is call it off now... like this minute. Because it will only get harder.
2007-01-19 19:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ray G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged to be married, but have feelings for another woman, why did you even ask your fiance to marry you? I think you are confused and you are not ready to marry. Those feelings for this schoolmate must have been there before asking your fiance to marry, you just didn't want to see that.
So, it is better to call it off with your fiance, otherwise if you do get married, you two will have many problems. So don't use your fiance, let her go and be honest with her this time.
2007-01-19 19:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what is the best for you and her....Don't ever put the situation worsen by marry to someone that you do not love. Not only you will be hurt ed, but also people around you. Try to think of the best decision before its too late dude!!
2007-01-19 19:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by MaNaGer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just afraid of having one vagina for the rest of your life. I hear a lot of engaged men have this problem, it's called onegina.
But seriously, marriage is a big decision and only you can truly know if you're ready for it.
2007-01-19 19:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sonny E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre not happy just being engaged then your marriage is gonna suck and end up in divorce and shes gonna take your money and your kids and your life is gonna go down the crapper. you dont need another girl as an excuse, but if u want it as one then go ahead. u dont necessarily have to dump your girlfriend, but it definately sounds like youre not ready for marriage.
2007-01-19 19:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily single.
2016-05-24 00:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your already thinking about another girl obviously its a sign you really don't care for your fiancee in that loving way anymore.It better to face it now, save your fiancee and yourself from wasting anymore time.
2007-01-19 19:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by 021 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u better do it now .. cause in the long run u remain unhappy.. Let her go now instead of making here for ever unhappy.
2007-01-19 19:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋