2007-01-19 19:45:13 · 21 answers · asked by Thorsbride15 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I used to volunteer in a "special" classroom in an elementary school. I was at first suprised to hear that many of the parents used caffiene as an alternative to medication! However, when my daughter was later diagnosed as ADHD I gave it a try at home. To my GREAT suprise it did just as much as any medications the doctor had given her. Most ADHD medications are stimulants. Caffiene has teh same effect. For whatever reason their bodies react teh opposite of what a "normal" persons would.
As a side-note if your son has not been medically diagnosed as ADHD, please be aware that havgin that label put on him WILL hold him back in many future activities. But if the problem is severe enough and once he starts school, if it affects his ability to learn please haev him seen by a doctor specifically for this.
ADHD is VERY real but it is VERY controllable. These children(and adult sufferers as well) are often extremely intelligent. My favorite theory on TRUE ADHD is that they are just easily bored because they understadn so much so fast. In fact, my own daughter settled down with hers a lot when she was allowed to do school work at her own pace and aleviate her boredom. I once watched her sit with a math workbook from school that was intended for her grade level and work through half the book AND UNDERSTAND what she had done in an hours time. NO exaggerations! It completely blew my and her teachers' minds!
2007-01-19 20:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any punishment given to a child that needs it has to be instantly given in connection with the misdeed. If any delay, the child will not connect it to the deed. They can get twisted from it. You cannot reason with some children. They are like little animals until they get to be even 40 years old. Also any punishment must be consistent not on and off. If you can not be on top of them at all times, then time outs are better. Time out don't work very well, but at least they show the child you care even tho they don't believe it. When the child gets to school, the teacher will be able to tell if the child is ADD/ADHD. They compare behavior amongst the other children.
2007-01-20 04:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our son is ADD/ADHD and borderline autistic. We didn't have him on any medication until the school required it in kindergarten. Basically, parents are taught that children this age have such a short attention span, that punishment needs to be adjusted also. Basically, time out is the punishment, but only for 1-4 minutes at a time. It also helps if you get your child a watch, and teach them how to count the minutes off. Then when they come out of time out, they are to come to you and explain why they got time out, and apologize. This was a school that parents and children had to attend in order to control children. It will be a struggle to teach them this, but it did help quite a lot with our son. The one thing they stressed was that spanking wasn't comprehended by these children as well as children without ADD, so that was the one punishment that should be avoided. Something about an ADD child seeing any physical punishment as a challenge.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-20 03:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by fawnrising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch the diet. Careful not to label the child, cause then he or she has an exuse for behavior, but worse, people with labels live up the expectations for that label.
Short easy to understand words when punishing. Make eye contact and with no distractions say "That is one". touching them gently on the arm will also help them focus and not be distracted while you say what you have to say. Keep it short and simple. Do not vary in punishments. that is confusing.. giving up because 'that doens't work' is why that doesn't work.. you gave up. good punishments is 1-2-3 timeout.. keep the timeouts shorter if the attention span is shorter because they won't remember clearly whey they are there. Be consistent. Be the rock, that they can predict.. that they know what you will do before you do it for punishment... very very consistent.
Also, rewards work very well.. and make sure that the child understands what is going on. sometimes adhd people and kids don't understand what really happened, you can say 'the potatoe was good' and their perception will be 'go and get me a potatoe'... have them tell you what they think just happened...
2007-01-20 04:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is an ADHD book out there but i can't think of the name of it talks about that some kids show signs of ADHD but some cases it can be sometimes is a reaction to his diet.(MSG, red die, anything) in this same book it shows how to test for it but it takes about month to get threw it. you start with plain streamed diet of veggies, meat(real meat not hot dogs or any kind of pressed meat) and rice for so long. then you start to add other things in such as milk, or MSG, you get the idea. but you only add one thing at time and for so many days. it could help and it's a lot cheaper then drugs. ADHD is real and there is help out there, personally think drugs should the last line of defense. good luck
2007-01-20 04:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help soon, find a place that will test your child so that you will know for sure. You will have a long road ahead of you when you child starts school. It will be a battle to get your child through 12 years of school, but thier are programs to help you and you will need thier help if your child is ADD. My wife and I have been down that road and it is a rough one. Our youngest is about to be 21 Feb 2 and he is ADD. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-20 04:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by ULTRA150 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADHD is waaay overused....people are too quick to label children. Look into food sensitivities, or enviormental sensitivities. Food dyes, dust , mold, anything really could contribute to behavioral issues....have you ever heard of NAET?? Look into it, very interesting, and it works!! log onto NAET.com checkit out!
2007-01-21 18:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by JADE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take time to be sensitive to the 4 year olds needs and pay attention to the signs that he/she is giving... It is best to be patient with a child and be as sensitive as possible...
2007-01-20 03:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Terri Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who has decided this 4 year old has ADHD?
2007-01-20 03:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do dont try drugs they never work my cousin is now 21 my aunty tried everything but i dont know where she took her i think she signed her up for like a camp thing with other people that had it and it worked but she still has her moments ill look into it more for you
2007-01-20 04:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋