Was unclear on the other question....I need opinions from some chicks?
I got dumped two weeks ago. She finally called me yesterday....We talked for more than an hour (very positive, did not beg, or cry, but tried to show her I care and I want her back). The break up was my fault. She texted me after our conversation saying it was good to talk to me and that she wanted to meet me for coffee the next day (today). I said cool and let me know when she wants to meet up. Never called me, I called her and she said she had been very busy and she had to work rest of the night. My question is this: Is she playing games? Is she interested in getting back together? Is she just playing hard to get cause she just doesn't trust me yet? Is it just going to take some time? Was she really busy? I care for her a lot and I want to do this right. Any opinions?
2007-01-19 19:38:00 · 8 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you want a woman's opinion but you can figure this out by yourself. I will help light the path.
1) You got dumped. A girl who has sufficient Interest Level (degree of love 51% you have a chance, 90%+ she will rob banks for you), would not dump you. Would you dump a girl if you loved her so much? But of course, you said it was your "fault." I just hope she didn't put the guilties on you...
2) She says she wants to meet you for coffee but doesn't follow through. The Bottom Line Factor says read her actions, not her words. Either she has no Integrity or again, low Interest Level. If she had Integrity, she would follow through. If she had high Interest Level, she would have skipped work to see you.
So to answer your questions:
She's playing a game called "Come back sucker and I'll get my revenge on you." Yes, she wants you back so she can backstab you and dump you again (you gave her ammo for that). And if she doesn't trust you anymore, again, you have no hope because the bond of trust once broken will 99.9% never completely heal. Yes, it will take a lot of time... FOREVER. No, she was probably not really busy... unless you count her going out with the poor (or lucky) guy who will be her rebound guy.
And as Ray (the poster above) says, she's only keeping you around like a dog on a leach. Move on and don't make the same mistake, bro. Bypass your ego, your high Interest Level, and disappear!!
2007-01-19 20:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by nerdyjohn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if girls dont call back they dont care that much. They will make time if they want to. Especially if she was supposed to meet you and didnt. They spend hours before dates getting ready, but she cant take 5 minutes to call you to say she cant make it??? She loves the fact that you are still hanging around, but she is playing the field, it is just the way it is. Also, Coffee is usually a bad idea anyway because that is a "friend" thing, general rule of thumb... if she wants to get back together she will ask you to dinner or usually something after dark. I know it is tough, but my opinion is the fastest way to get her attention is to stop acting interested, and along the way you may meet someone else. Dont empower her, the minute she sees she has all the control you are done for.
2007-01-20 03:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ray G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think she was playing games. i think she told you the truth, that she was busy at work. you know how it is when things unforeseen come up.
but i would not expect that she will trust you for a long, long time. you messed up and you are going to have to prove that you will not be foolish about her again. everyone makes mistakes, so if you do, you must immediately tell her that you feel you did, and why. see if she was insulted. apologize from your heart, not from that other brain you men have. and do not just stop seeing her without having a face to face talk! how obnoxious!
2007-01-20 03:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
could be a number of reasons, but my instinct says she was probably nervous about getting together. if the break up was your fault, she may be scared that whatever the reason was, it may happen again. she probably does care if she called after 2 weeks, but give her some time. reassure her that you are still there and that you do care about her, and don't f*ck up this time! :)
2007-01-20 03:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yey she wants u but no games 4 real . she has been busy maybe really having hard time too.She trust u but is it the same 4 u?Always do right but she may really need u now...........
2007-01-20 03:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she prob wasn't cleared herself and she wanted to think about it before she meet up with you again.
2007-01-20 03:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by SG1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi mi name is andria, i think she is just not sure if she still loves u yet. she is problay thinking still. give it some time.
2007-01-20 03:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Andria L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be patient.....she was probably busy....she is as confused as you are.....follow her lead, be loving, and don't push...good luck
2007-01-20 03:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋