serious answers please, I am having a hard time since I have my own guilt and shame about my number,,,,but why would he put me down when he's more than tripled me???
2007-01-19 19:14:04 · 28 answers · asked by wastedlife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try to explain to this guy that it was only 13 before he came along---and if it hadn;t been for guys like him it would be 0---if he;s calling you such names now he;ll never change --dump his *** and go your own way.
2007-01-19 19:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a "pathetic double-standard".
I would first suggest that he's probably LYING ALOT about how many women he's been with. Young men are prone to exaggerating that number, because they want to seem more "manly", which is a fallacy.
Second, most young men can't handle the idea that they might be competing with the memory of another young man, or more than one other young man. They're too insecure to fathom the possibility that they aren't the "one and only" and that they might not be as good as another one might have been.
It's sad.
Ignore it and move on to someone more mature.
2007-01-20 03:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because there will never be an equal playing field on standards for men and women...that's one of the crosses we bare. Besides any man who calls you a degrading name like that does not deserve a good woman...if the truth is in the numbers there are 80 plus women out there who can attest to that. Move on honey, part of being with someone is accepting their past and moving on from it.
2007-01-20 03:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is your worst enemy. Your first mistake was to reveal such a personal issue like that. Its better not to ask and not to be asked, so if you are to continue this relationship you both must agree on that. Having said that this has shown he has a double standard and considers some things OK for him but not for you which is not going to make for a happy relationship. Does that mean that it would be OK for him to cheat on you but for you to remain faithful? This is a signal to wake up and smell the disaster. Bottom line the number does not matter, would he be OK with 13,10, 5??? What matters is who you are and if he's not happy with that then time to move on. Life gives us signals. Can you hear them now?? Good luck!
2007-01-20 03:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by hawkeye1248 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, first off, what a jerk. if this guy is a "friend", no, sorry, he's really no good friend to you, do yourself a favor and remove his toxic influence from your mental outlook! if this guy is your bf, that's even worse, get rid of him and find yourself a healthier relationship!
the first reason that comes to mind, and i'm assuming he's your bf here, is that he's trying to knock you down and tie you up to him. he's picked a topic that he knows you have your own issues about, and works to specifically make you feel worse about it: "man, even with the number of chicks i've scored, i still think you're trash!! you better stay with me forever, because no other man will ever want you, slutwhore." sorry for going all after-school-special on you here, but girl, this is quite literally mental abuse. it's the same sort of techniques that men use to prevent their battered wives/girlfriends from leaving.
the best possible thing you can do, both to correct this situation and prevent it in the future, is to come to terms with your sexuality. you will never be able to undo your actions, but you don't have to be eternally punished for them either. think about the people you've been with, try to understand why you chose each of them, enjoy the positive aspects, learn from the negatives.
2007-01-20 03:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by koi_pond_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a hypocritical ******. You should not have any guilt or shame about your 14 guys. I reckon what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Give him the flick. A waste of space.
2007-01-20 03:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats something we wont be able to know for sure wut he's thinking !
One possibility is maybe it's becoz he still hold on to the past thinking ?
If this is like a century back ..its justifable , as guys see gals who will jump to bed with any guy is a free wh*re (sry) .. while they r free to roam ...
Have u ever had a talk with him abt how u feel when he call u that ? ! Well .. why r u feeling guilty n shameful ..if its ure choice to be with those other guys whom u once luv ? This is like 2007 n not 1807 !
2007-01-20 03:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is looking at himself and doesn't like what he sees. Also it the stupid double standards. If he's had 80 and I was you I would run away cause there is no teeling what he is going to give you, cause you know he hasn't always used protection. If he is judging you and he has a worst record that should tell you that you will never be happy with him cause he will bring it up everytime it suits him.
2007-01-20 03:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being an idiot as well as a hypocrite. Women have the right to have as many partners as they want until they find the right type of man for themselves. There is nothing wrong with you, the guilt you feel is socially imposed, so try to ignore it.
2007-01-20 07:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by aj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the way society views things. When I guy hooks up with alot of girls, he's popular because he's a "man." Women are expected to be more ladylike and proper...or so society says. So, if a woman sleeps around, she's a ****. That's just how it is. Slow down on the sleeping around though for your sake. Don't stick with the guy if he is going to put you down...you dont need that.
2007-01-20 03:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by jaded 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are the 80 Documented???!! We lie about stuff like that..and don't worry about yur number..that's all it is and that's that.
Divide 80 in half... subtact 20 and divide in half and you get the REAL number he sleep with lol that why he's fussin so much.
2007-01-20 03:20:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋