i was married a short time ago and my ex has been talking to his ex wife throughout the time, he has cheated on me with her and another lady that he left me to go live with for a few weeks, he leaves then comes back thenleaves then comes back and a few weeks ago he left and was very heartless about it and I didn't get upset, I guess ihave came to the conclusion that he never loved me. I have not shed the first tear, i don't hurt, I don't miss him i feel releaved that he is gone. i am considering dating, but i don't want to rush into something or rebound, any advice?
2007-01-19 19:10:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep on doing what you are doing.
2007-01-19 19:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have some self esteem problems. let him go, he's using you as his standby.
Don't let him return. Take time off to heal perhaps 6 months to a year. get a hobby, painting, writing, poetry, or something creative. Express your feelings. Buy a dog or a cat. Hand out with people you know, that are supportive, and care about you.
Get some counseling if you can, or else you will seek out another guy who is alike or nearly alike in many ways to your last one.
Buy a copy of this book "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Wayne or Dwayne Dyer. It was written in the 70's but it is just as valid today. Gives you the tools to see how you are being manipulated by others. Cruise the self-help books in any good library. Educate yourself as to how you have been letting other people use you, because if it happened to the extent you say, it started in childhood.
Seems like you are getting over him, and have hit bottom, when you felt relief that he has left. All positive from here.
Good luck.
2007-01-19 19:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is andria, ihave not gotten married before or in a real relationship. If he had broken ur heart and had kept on coming bak then leaving u. He is showing u that he has lost love with u. i Think u should move on in life and be happy and find someone that will love u forever and will make u feel happy and loved. i Bet ur a great beutiful women dont give up.
2007-01-19 19:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Andria L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off grow up, secondly don't lie to yourself, women tend to put on the I never cared and still don't when they are hurting. If it helps you get by for a little while then fine but try to not make a habit out of telling yourself lies and making yourself believe them. If you didn't care you wouldn't be posting question after question about him. As far as dating i think you need to work on yourself and learn to love yourself more before trying again especially so soon after a split as it will be unfair to whomever you go out with. Spend some time on yourself first.
-NmD!
2007-01-19 19:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with rebounding. Go out and paint the town red. Break some hearts. :) Congrats on getting rid of the wrong guy and possibly clearing a spot for the right one to come along.
2007-01-19 19:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Darktania 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR A FREE WOMAN! go and date, he is out of your life now, you are out there for the taking, so just see what happens.
2007-01-19 19:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by charmed12184 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself a lawyer, a divorce and start a new life without him
2007-01-19 19:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont rush into anything!!!
try to live happy!!!
2007-01-19 19:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋