14-year-old girl problem?

Question

Here is my case.My 14-year-old daughter really liked one guy from school,he is 17.He invited her to a party 2 weeks ago and she went but after he and some his friends got drunk,they didn't let her go home(it was during day while they had to be at school) and tied her hands to a bed.One of them covered her mouth and another tore her clothes and they raped her several times(she was virgin).She is very ashamed and doesn't want the whole school to know about it.The boys continue going to school.She doesn't want to tell anyone and eels very ashamed.She didn't want to go to the doctor either and I can't make her go.Since then she started pissing every night in her bed(she goes to the bathroom every evening of course).I can't make her go to councelling or anything.What should I do???And is it normal to be so stressed to piss in the panties?

Answer 1

she might be pregnant thats why she is URINATING a lot.
What kind of a mother lets her daughter go to a party during school hours?`

Answer 2

Wow I am sorry this is happening. I know you must feel horrible for her.

This is a tough thing, but you need to take her to the doctor. There is nothing that can be proved without DNA but the sperm does stay in the body for a bit I am just not sure how long. She could be pregnant and that may have something to do with urination. However the way you describe it sounds more psychology from having such a tramatic experiance. You do know the situation, so you need to go ahead and call police.

This may upset your daughter, but this needs to be taken care of or many girls are going to be raped before it is overwith. Talk with your daughter let her know that you are left with no other alternative but to be the wistle blower, if nothing else you can get them for sex with a minor, because a person can be tried as an adult in some cases.

This is not easy and I would not want to be in your shoes, but the best answer really is to turn these guys in. You know where the party was so it can be narrowed down to who was there and the police can do the rest of the work, or your daughter can volutary give up the information. You have to do this for both you and your daugther, I am so sorry, I wish there was a better easier way for you precious child.

Answer 3

If you aren't going to do anything about it then you ought to put her in the car and take her to a psych ward where she will get real help(not joking).It is not normal to piss your pants at that at that age,she needs help that you obviously can't give her. It sounds like your daughter was the only girl at this party with a bunch of guys,and she probably knew there would be alcohol. She should have known there would be trouble.Besides,if she's cutting school and going to parties at 14 where there's alcohol, maybe she also needs a new mother figure to raise her properly.How children behave is a reflection of their parents.It's very sad she had to get raped in order to learn that when you want to party with older guys and make them think you're wild you pay the consequences.

Answer 4

OH MY GOD! I can't believe you hadn't done something yet. Situations as serious as this should not to be taken lightly and I can't believe you are still asking us of what you are suppose to do. You should have called the police the minute you were told of what had happened. DO YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD? or you are just so ignorant that you do not know what to do. Your weak! And didn't you know that the first thing that you should have done was to call the police then get your daughter to a doctor to have her seen and checked, and called the school. And you know what? you shouldn't have permitted your daughter the first time she asked to went to the party because, admit it, you do not know what kind of people those gits are and look what have happened to your daughter now. You should make it a point to know your daughters friends and her wereabouts..Im hoping the best for you and your daughter...exercise your authority..bring your daughter in for counselling despite her protests and REPORT TO THE POLICE!

Answer 5

Do you really think anyone is going to beleive this pile of bullshit? It is so obviously bogus, You must really have a lack of intelligence if you can't come up with something more believable than this crap. I suggest you stay in school and actually LEARN something about rape and the psychological effects it has as well as parenting because IF you happen to be a parent...you have no parenting skills at all and should be hauled off for child endangerment/neglect for ALLOWING a 14 year old CHILD to go to a party with older guys as well as not MAKING her to go to the doctor for the bogus rape you CLAIM was done. Get a friggin life...you are sorrier than me and I'm a 53 year old woman.!

Answer 6

Your problem is a serious one that calls for a serious solution. You have to be objective on this and not mind what your daughter doesn't like or like to do. Think about the whole problem, the psychological effect of what happened, the long-term effect on your daughter not only on your daughter pissing in her panties (it's not purely stress, it's physical because her vagina is healing from a broken hymen) Go to a doctor and get a medico-legal findings. Report it to school authorities. Don't let your daughter blame you in the future for being a 'sitting duck'.

Answer 7

Oh MY GOD!!!! I cant believe you have not done anything about this. You need to do something NOW!!!! what are you waiting for? She is 14 years old you are the parent...you are in control. She needs you right now. Parents like you should be ashamed of yourself. You need to call the cops NOW!!!! She might hate you now but in the long run she'll thank you. When she gets older she'll hate you then for not doing anything now. Those guys need to be punished. You should call the cops and let them know. You need to keep this from happening to somebody else they need to pay for what they have done and your daughter needs counseling this can lead to long term issues and lets hope you dont want that....I mean....what parent would......Im back to say this to "im still sexy".... why did you copy and paste everything i said as my reply..that is not right. Do you not know how to come up with your own opinion...!!!!

Answer 8

Have a water slide going down the hill. Get 2 mini tents and 1 long tent. For the first mini tent, put different kinds of clothes in it and each girl will choose what they want. It could be like aeropostale, etc. then one girl will go in the long tent and change clothes. Then she'll go to the other mini tent (they're all connected) and put on makeup. Each girl will go one at a time. The tents should be connected like this: <-------> You're neighbor, parent, whoever can come and judge and see who looks the best. I dunno if this is ur age group.

Answer 9

If u do not report this and allow this matter to hush hush..you are sending wrong signal to your daugther that this is her fault and everyone should forget about it.

She is going to live in guilt and shame the rest of her life!

Please report this to the police!
She needs medical attention, just in case she gets pregnant/contracts any STD.

MOE should be notified. She may need a change of school so she can restart and not face the school.

The boys should be punished for their act!

Answer 10

first of all saying you can't make her bullsh*t. A good parent would have immediately called the police and got them to the house. Can't get her to counselling !!!!!!Who is the parent! She needs help and it is your job to do this. These boys need to be dealt with. If this is just another made up story though by some kid who is bored then you need to grow up and realise gang rapes happen and should not be used as a joke

Answer 11

Her feelings are understandable, it must have been extremely traumatic for her but she must get help and she must go to the police and tell them what happened. You need to talk to her, explain to her that if not for herself must report it for the sake of the other women these savages will come into contact will. They are committing acts like this at 17 it's terrifying to contemplate what they will be doing by the time they reach their 30s. It is her responsibility to ensure these men are punished for what they have done. Otherwise they will go on to do it to other women.

If she does this it will help with her healing. She may well be taking some responsibility for what happened on herself. She has to accept that these young men are completely to blame and she did no wrong. All the time she is refusing to allow them to be punished she is punishing herself.

You are in a difficult situation, obviously you don't want to see you daughter distressed any further and you must be sensitive. I understand that you want to respect her decision but she is very young to have to take this responsibility on herself, maybe you should insist. Make her go to the police, make her see a doctor, she's still a child after all, occasionally, just occasionally, we have to make choices for them.

Good luck