k. so ive been going out wit this one dude for bout two months now and im REALLY getting anoyed by him. hes really sweet and thats wut i fell for in the first place but just the other day i met this other guy and hes sooo funny(and we hav so much in common) and my bf rite now doesnt hav a very big sence of humor. i shud have known dat this relationship wud have never worked out cus its long distance, and our personnalities are almost perfectly opposite. but like, i feel really bad cuz hes soo serious bout this relationship and hes sooo nice, sweet and stuff so its kinda hard to dump him. i really need to find a way to break up with him but not hurt him too much cuz i still wanna be friends with him and im not bout say sumthing like <>
2007-01-19 18:44:30 · 10 answers · asked by babyyy_grl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This question comes up a lot on Answers. "How can I dump someone without hurting their feelings?"
It's impossible to dump someone without hurting their feelings. Unless you lie, you're going to be breaking up with them. They're going to be hurt but that's natural; rejection hurts. Lying to them is WAY worse than telling them the truth ever is.
Just come out with it with something like "It's just not working out anymore". Emphasize that respect him so you don't want to lie to him at all.
Expect him to be hurt. There's nothing that you can do about this. Just feel good because you're not going to lie to him.
Don't use the "friends" line. Just break up with him and later on, in a few months, make contact with him in a "friend" way.
2007-01-19 18:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, tell him that you don't think you are very compatible. He may not want to hear it but being incompatible is a very viable reason to get out of a relationship.
Its difficult, but better now than when you don't even want to talk to the guy anymore.
Be careful about getting out of one relationship because the grass seems greener on the other side, more often than not this is NOT the case.
Whatever you do don't tell him that you want to be alone for a while if you don't. Many girls use this one, its easy and its usually a bunch of junk. If you hope to remain friends honesty is the only way.
2007-01-20 02:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt is going to happen, but he will appreciate your honesty if you tell him what you have said here, especially over the distance thing. As years have gone by for me and any of my former girlfriends I have run across, it's always the ones who were honest with me who got my respect then and still today, and we are all still civil years later. The breakups without honesty end up looked upon later as resentful learning experiences.
Just be honest and move on, don't drag it out.
2007-01-20 03:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by phantom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well .. you will anyway hurt him ! SO just do it now and the pain will be less rather than prolonging it and making life difficult for both of u.
He will have enough time to move on and so will u.
Meet him in person and do the breakup, give him some respect ( after he is ur bf ! and soon to be ex )
2007-01-20 03:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by thesinmon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you REALLY want to be friends with him, you have to be honest and tell him just that. To make something up would be disrespectful. Just tell him that you jumped in too quickly and now you're realizing that it's not working the way you hoped it would.
2007-01-20 03:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, lie to him if you really don't want to hurt his feelings. Tell him you're going to be a nun or that you like women, whatever. You are more afraid of how bad you will feel vs how bad he will feel. Pity is a weak form of vanity.
2007-01-20 02:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by male_with_heartbeat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its just not working out for you and you have found someone else, guys would rather hear honesty than any other sugar coated load of crap honestly. Just make it swift and to the point and walk away.
-NmD!
2007-01-20 02:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen long distance doesn't really work. and besides if you dont break up with him you really only hurt yourself, you deserve a guy you like not a guy you feel like you have to be with cause he is nice leave him and be happy with this funny guy you met
2007-01-20 02:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by el nene del amor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll hurt the first guy after realizing that the second guy has a better sense of humor. You will hurt the second guy after you you find out that the third guy has a better look. you'll hurt the third guy...
2007-01-20 03:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by Steven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sick of these stupid questions. THERE IS NO WAY TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT HURTHING THEM
2007-01-20 02:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Waythere 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋