My husbands sister, i dont like her at all, she is a lieing keniving biotch, and my husband thinks im crazy for thinking this, well he's deployed and i went to ny for a month, we live in germany, well while i was there i tried to get my other sister in law to take me and my step daughter to the mall to get a SPECIAL gift for daddy for his little girl, of which i needed her to take the photo, well my sister in law (mary* the one i dont like) tell me and my other in law (dalia) that she doesnt want to let us take her incase if the childs mother finds out, not caring if the gift would make her brother extremely happy, i explain this to my husband and he sees no problem with this, that his sister plainly chose another persons happiness over his, this kills me, and now he wants her to come to our house in germany to see him for his leave, and i dont want her there, she also refused to come to my baby shower bc she didnt want the childs mother to find out, am i buggin or do i see this right?
2007-01-19 18:38:32 · 2 answers · asked by red.one9luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not try to drive a wedge between your husband and his biological family. It will make your children uncomfortable socializing with their aunts in front of you and your kids need a relationship with that side of the family- no matter how much you don't like them.
I don't think you're wrong to be upset. But I think that you need to understand that if you ask your husband to pick between you and his biological family, you very well may not win!! Its not RIGHT, what's happening, but there is NOTHING you can do to fix that.
You can't change your husband. You can't change his sisters. You CAN change how you react to them.
Understand that his sisters are manipulating and will do what they have to to get their way
Understand that your husband hasn't reached a point where he can 'see' this yet. (Its not something you can show him! Don't try. You'll look like the bad guy!) He will see what's happening in time!
They are not right in their actions, but this is when you get to take the high road and be the better person.
Let her childish actions roll off your back. Its hard. Its VERY hard. But you can't change her. And you won't win if you ask your husband to pick between the two of ya'll. So instead, make this something that doesn't bother you!! Its VERY HARD! I know. But you have to make sure this is a small thing in your life.
Best wishes to you!!
2007-01-19 18:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
your over reacting over a trivial thing,
2007-01-20 02:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋