divorce will be final in a few weeks if all goes well. It's very sad but at the same time I'm glad it will finally be over. it wasn't my choice, hubby cheated and crushed my heart, but it's been over 2 years we've been apart. And I have not dated or anything, out of self respect, just because marriage didnt mean much to him, it's still a sacred thing to me. I am 5' 120lbs. petite, green eyes, blonde hair and looking for someplace to meet people and make new friends, not for anything serious but to get myself out there and start my life over, a new beginning. Any one have ideas on where or how to do that, its been over 24 years sense i've dated or went out on my own as a single lady. Ideas and suggestions would surely be appreciated. Thanks
2007-01-19 18:14:39 · 10 answers · asked by Sassy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are in any city where there is a contra dance (not country dance), GO! Contra is the great healing space. It's kind of like square dancing, but no funny clothes. You don't need a partner to go, you just need the willingness to smile and have a good time. (Wear comfortable shoes! It's aerobic!) Mistakes are part of the texture of the dance. If you go and assume you belong, before three evenings are over, you will! You get to touch people of the opposite sex without coming on to them, and you get smiles from lots of people. I speak from experience that it gives you JUST what you've been missing if you're recently divorced: a friendly face and (possibly) a hug at the end of a dance.
It's not like booty dancing, where you have to dance with the same guy (or girl) for a whole dance, wondering if he's coming on to you - or if she's not interested! It's not like ballroom dancing, where you have to take expensive lessons for years before you are accepted into the group. And it's not like tango or salsa, which, although fabulous dances, are filled with men who simply will not ask you to dance!
At a contra dance, it's considered ill-form to dance with the same person more than once (maybe twice, if it's your husband or boyfriend or wife or girlfriend), and newcomers are especially taken care of. If you go, and find out that I'm wrong, write to someone at the contra dance in st louis and ask for Martha. I'll find the local dance community organizers and ask them to figure out what they're doing wrong...
I'll give you a link to my local dance, to give you a flavor - there's a description on the home page, then poke around to see what else we do. There's a page called "Dance Links" that has ways to find local dances anywhere in the United States - and a few other places as well!
It's not a singles club, but just as effective, more, maybe, given our rate of dancer marriages, though that's not the point. Having fun is the point. Though you can't tell from looking at us, I'd say most of us have been divorced at one time or another, so we don't think it's strange. I thought it was a bit hokey at first, but after I'd had more fun than I ever thought possible, I decided hokey was GOOD.
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2007-01-19 18:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Martha E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 21 loooong years and left him just over 5 years ago. After about 2 years my friend got me to check into match.com,believe it or not,it works! I'm now engaged (thought I'd never say that again) and very happy with a man I met from that site. Good luck and happy hunting!
2007-01-19 18:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it slow. Don't rush into anything serious. make sure you are truly healed from the scars from the loss of your marriage.
To many divorce people rush into a new marriage not healed from damage made by first marriage and then that marriage crashes in less then 2 years.
2007-01-19 18:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eyesdating
2015-02-02 10:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and around, pardon the language, but grow some balls and start talking to people who interest you. Thats the only way.
2007-01-19 18:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any hobbies? You could always join a club and meet people with the same interests.
2007-01-19 18:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice people, 2 years, I would be ready to meet some very easy sluty women after 2 years. you should try that.
2007-01-19 18:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Sassy D,
I was truly saddened to hear about your impending divorce and can empathize with you, because my marriage also DISSIPATED INTO THIN AIR after 33 years ( WITHOUT AN EXPLANATION or REASON !!! ) OK ! So while you were betrayed by your husband because of his cheating, my ex-wife WAS mentally unstable - leaving me thrice ( in which period I never ever considered having another relationship - because like you, I consider a marriage as a very sanctified contract ), ONLY to return to me, emaciated and very ill each time, because no one else was willing to look after her - NOT EVEN HER OWN PARENTS !
Now I cannot offer you any kind of PHYSICAL COMPANIONSHIP of any kind because we are probably thousands of miles apart - BUT if you feel like communicating and exchanging views, THEN I shall be only too pleased to offer you my MORAL SUPPORT, as I can REALLY BE A FUN PERSON ( hence the moniker FUNGUY ).
My e-mail address is: maxalikhan@yahoo.com
2007-01-20 03:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go out for some drinks with your girfriends ,men will come up!!lf you dont have any gf,just make some to hang out.
2007-01-19 18:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to bad I live far away hon, or I show you around.
2007-01-19 18:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋