im scared to luv again?

Question

my first bf used me
he hurt me really bad
and now im scared to luv someone again
because of wat happend

Answer 1

i have been there.

but I would rather have loved and lost then never loved at all.

don't open yourself up to love yet. try friendship and then liking...when love happens it happens.

it can come slow and sure. it can strike like thunder. you never know. but you can ignore it and shut it down. don't. it is worth the pain.

and don't LET yourself love someone who does not treat you right.

so a guy is a jerk but you like him/are infatuated. get over it. do something else. it ain't worth it.

Answer 2

I went through ( very similarly ) what you did, and yes it hurts, but keep in mind and in heart that He is not the same as someone else will be. After some time has passed you can find happiness with someone else, just don't keep rehashing the past, especially with the new guy, give him a chance...and yourself a new chance. And remember, It is ok to believe in love...! Just take it slow and *easy... ( really get to know each other before anything heavy happends ) ( sex I mean ) talk alot and ask questions (* tell him why but don't go into detail, too much, at first ) most will understand " the I have been hurt before, words" and... enjoy the ride along the way...don't go from start to finish, with no in- between...Take care...and be well
( good luck dear heart )

Answer 3

A reason to love again


Allow me one moment love
To tell you how much you have changed my life
How you make my world worth living in
And how you can make me smile
At the fact that I've never been this happy

I've never felt so safe in someone's arms
Like nothing else matters
and when I'm with you the world is no longer there
There's just you and me
And the feeling between us

And I can remember the times in the past
When i never thought I could be happy again
But you proved me wrong
You gave me a reason to be happy
And showed me that loving him was nothing like loving you

All I can think about now
Is how lucky I am
To have found someone so perfect
Someone who can make me feel beautiful
Even after I wake up in the morning

So I wonder now
If you weren't to have come into my life
Would I be able to smile at this point in time?
Could I even take a breath of air?
Or stop for a minute not to cry?

Thank you, love.
You have given me the world
You have given me a reason to live
A reason to smile again
And a reason to love again.
My angel.

Answer 4

Oh girl, I know how that is. But I've learned the hard way that the only person you will ever love and won't hurt you is yourself. When the right guy comes along and you are ready, you will give him a shot. And he will probably hurt you. But as each boyfriend comes and goes you take something away from the relationship and you get a little bit stronger. I just found out my last boyfriend cheated on me. Actually, they all have. But I know eventually I will find a good one...it's just keeping my head held high until then and knowing when to walk away when and if the time comes.

Answer 5

I was in a realionship with my first love for over 3 years. He never trusted me, he broke up with me many times, and he cheated on me! One day I realized I deserved better than that, and no matter how much I loved him, I couldnt live my life with a man who could do that to me.

I swore I would never love any one ever again. But one day, I woke up, and I didnt hurt so bad anymore. I thought, ok, this is great. I dont need a man, and I can still feel good. I didnt go out looking for love or for a boyfriend.

Thats when I met my husband. I just thought he would be someone to go out and finally have some fun with! I met him 2 months after my breakup. And when I wasnt wanting to or ecpecting to...BAM, I fell in love. We have been married 7 mobths, and together almost 7 years now.

The point? Just remember in your heart not all men are jerks! And they wont all hurt you. And even though you are scared, one day you will fall in love again! Just dont run from it. Be cautious, sure. Just dont shut your heart down. It takes time, but I swear, It gets so much better.

Answer 6

I understand exactly how you feel, but you know what that will go away over time. I said the same thing I dont want to love again/ I will not date anyone else but guess what within a few months I was dating again. Just take my advice be careful of who you are with, leave room for disappointment so you wont get hurt. Its better to be with someone then along for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

Take your time. Keep things light for awhile while you regain that energy you used on your last relationship.

I realize love is painful but anything worth having is never easy or painless. Love with the right person can change your life and heart forever, even if that relationship ends.

It's all a learning process so have fun while you take your journey of enlightment.

Answer 8

That is one thing that is hard to deal with. Love is a very wondering but bad thing. There is always those people who will take advantage of you and hurt you but then if you dont if you dont go out and give it a chance you will miss out. I think there is a different levels of love. I am married and love my husband and could not imagine living with out him, but I once loved this guy so much I thought he could do no wrong and he hurt me bad but there is still that love there for him cause for a moment I was trully happy. Take some time for yourself and when your ready you will find someone who will not break your heart.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Everyone has a few heart aches before they settle down, It's a part of life. He was your first love and one you'll probably never forget but learn from it and get back out in the real world. Only time will heal. you'll see, it'll be alright :)