Why are women so darn sensitive?

Question

Talking to my girlfriend is like walking on eggshells. Any wrong word will set her hurdling down a path of self doubt and baseless suspicions. Other girls from the past have behaved in a similar fashion. You can't speak with them honestly. YOu have to tell them what they want to hear.

Answer 1

Women aren't sensitive. They are just nuts. They drive everyone nuts too -- not just men but also other women.

Answer 2

Not all women are that way. And some men are that way. But yes, overall, many women seem to read more into what other people say then is actually there.

I like watching TV shows where people do this. Beauty and the Geek comes to mind. Some of those women flip out quite easily. But then, sometimes the guys say things that you just know the girls are going to take the wrong way. I think one female character got kicked off because she talked more like a guy - and the other girls thought she was saying things that she wasn't.

I'd say it has to do with cultural training. If you're taught to be passive aggressive, then you tend to think that other people are acting that way, even when they're not.

I recently told a friend that her unborn baby looked like an alien. We were looking at an ultrasound photo from the second trimester. My comment did not go over well.

Answer 3

"WHAT? Are you SAYING I'm too sensitive? You probably think I'm too FAT, too! I knew it... I bet you're just LOOKING for an excuse to break up with me... (sniffle) You don't really like my hair this way, DO you! You've always secretly wished I was blonde, DIDN't you? (glare). OK, who IS she? The other GIRL, that's who! The skinny blonde! You cheatin', lyin', two-faced, MALE chauvinist pi....."

Oh, wait. Sorry, did I just prove your point? :) Just so you know I'm not a completely humorless feminatz...

Seriously, then, some other options to think about...

You might consider that you are attracted to the 'wrong kind of girl' - for you, that is. Perhaps you have developed a pattern ('other girls from the past') of making unfortunate choices?

You might suspect that many women have been hurt by the wrong kind of man in the past and have some justifiable right to their suspicions and doubt. Worldwide statistics indicate that ONE in THREE women have been abused - physically, sexually, or emotionally - during their life. That's not just in 'third-world countries', either, or war-torn nations: 31% of American women report having been abused. And here's some frightening stats:

# In 2001, intimate partner violence made up 20 percent of violent crime against women. The same year, intimate partners committed three percent of all violent crime against men.
# As many as 324,000 women each year experience intimate partner violence during their pregnancy.
# Women of all races are about equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate.
# Male violence against women does much more damage than female violence against men; women are much more likely to be injured than men.

You might take the time to wonder what sort of societal expectations are loaded upon the developing female, or what kind of mixed messages the very powerful media sends her. Fashion, porn, merchandising, parental modeling, peers, movies, and all the texts and images with which her culture surrounds her all attempt to shape or strike at her self-worth as a unique individual.

You might look at the way you communicate and evaluate whether you are mistaking crassness for forthrightness and bluntness for honesty - you can be truthful AND tactful at the same time, you know. Your question, for example, while expressing a seemingly honest frustration common to many men, was not the most - er - sensitively phrased. :P

I'd vote for Jaileen's answer if I were a high enough level to vote, btw... men and women need to explore, understand, and finally appreciate their differences in order to have a full and satisfactory relationship.

Answer 4

You know something....
Honesty is a good thing BUT,
Honesty without consideration toward what the other person might feel is BAD.
We often think that just being honest will make things out in the clear and easy.
That's not true, you have to consider what your going to say and how can it make the other person feel.
Relationships take allot of communication and consideration toward other peoples feelings. (in my own opinion)
Example:
1) Baby, i need my space tonight.
You could say with considering the other..
2) Baby, Its nothing against and i don't want to hurt your feelings but, i would appreciate to have time alone tonight.
Do you see the difference... im considering the other persons feelings. She could feel insecure then, reassure her instead of reacting. Reacting only makes your partner believe more in her insecurities.
ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY, ITS HOW YOU SAY IT.

Answer 5

Well the reason we are SO DARN SENSITIVE, is because of our hormones, but if your girl friend seems overly sensitive then she may have depression, anxiety, or she may have gone through something very unpleasant in her life that has made her very sensitive, so talk to her and ask her what is wrong. We really do like that ya know. And instead of staring at her boobs while she's talking, actually listen to what she has to say.

Answer 6

well maybe u date very self concious girls.....
if u cant speak with them honestly whats the point of talking to them at all?
try telling her this, cause im sure she will agree that she isnt gunna want u lying to her all the time,
and also u can try to be a lil more sensitive,
maybe u are really saying something that hurts her, and if so ask her y it bothers her SO much.....
good luck.

Answer 7

Believe it or not, girls are more competative about getting guys than guys are about getting girls.

It's war and we don't like to lose to another girl, you might think is prettier or smarter or sexier.
It's a hard world for us to be queen bee and when we suspect we're not, we fall apart because we don't know what to do next. We easily feel like we are being judged and actually, we are.

We are just scared creatures by nature.

Answer 8

it's just a woman's nature. You should try taking a human sexuality class and there they teach you how men and women act. And having all that knowledge teaches you soooo many things. Like....why men dont call when they say they do? why men are all nice at first and later in the relationship they change? all this questions have answers.....and it's all about getting to know each other as women and men that we are :)

Answer 9

maybe she is not comfortable with her self and your relationship. I know when I first meet my husband I was not like that, but once we moved in together I became that way for a while. I was very insecure with the relationship and what to expect. try taking a different approach with talking with her. You should be able to tell the truth but be there when she gets upset as well.

Answer 10

When you're female the world tends to revolve around you. It's all about what you get, what you like, what's in it for you, what you look like, etc. Any relationship isn't about the two of you but simply about yourself and what that guy does for you, and how to change him to fit you. They deceive themselves constantly by using make-up and clothes to alter their features, so they want you to buy into this lie and perpetuate it. Anything less disrupts their fragile perception of the 'reality' they've created.

Answer 11

1) get over it
2) tell her to get over it.

I remember when I asked my fiancee, "are you crying for real reason? or is this going to pass in an hour?" she got pissed but an hour later she told me i was right.

don't tell her what she wants to hear about important things.
sure tell her she is skinny in that dress and that you like to cuddle once in awhile after sex.

but don't live a lie. lots of women mature and though they are still emotional, they get over it. for alot of women it is when they deal with having kids they grow up (some dont)