is this unusual? I want to start dating soon, but I am pretty shy. and I just feel realy weird cuz most ppl have gone out by now, but untill about a year ago I didnt even feel this way. Ive always been a tomboy, untill recently Ive been caring alot more about my looks. I just feel left out when I hear about others talk about there relationships and stuff. whats your opinion? am I bound to be a loner 4ever? and how can I break out of my shyness?
2007-01-19 17:26:51 · 25 answers · asked by Charmed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope not unusual at all. Wait until you're ready to date and find a good guy.
2007-01-19 17:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by cavigirl17 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey- I only started dating when I was 17. I'm 18 now and it gets easier with every date. Talk to guys in general, whether it's passing in the hallway or the teller or to the person that sits behind you in class or on a bus- you don't have to date them immediately but you'll build your confidence. Then when you get asked out - just a little hint- suggest coffee instead of a movie, it's cheaper (no fumbling over who pays for movies or popcorn), shorter (less awkward moments and it's a quicker escape), gives you a chance to talk casually ( avoid the "shhhh" in the movies) and above all, it's in a more public place (movies go dark- if you're extremely shy or nervous, you'll feel vulnerable).
Good luck! Happy dating!
2007-01-20 01:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Girly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, join the club. I started dating my senior year in high school, and i didnt have a steady gf until my first year in college. Don't rush it. The woman I am dating now will (hopefully) be my wife in a year and a half. I love her. I know i missed out on learning a lot from not dating, but that too shall pass. You will not be a loner forever. It takes a courageous step forward, but it can be done. Now, if you want a boy, look pretty, and make him think you are easy. If you want a man, impress him with your compassion, your morals, your intellect, and your personality. If you have good looks, that will just be icing on the cake.
2007-01-20 01:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me when i was was a little younger. I rarely even talked to guys until i hit freshman year, and got my first boyfriend. I was a huge tomboy but started caring more about feminine things and turned out to be pretty decent looking once i tried a little more. That gave me more self confidence which i think made me more relaxed around people. Go shopping and get your hair cut, start breaking out of your shell by talking to people who dont intimidate you first, and just let things happen. you wont be a loner forever, youll find someone before you know it.
2007-01-20 01:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it not unusual i myself am in the same position, i also feel left out at times because i never been in the position that everyone else is talking about so i dont know what to say im just there listening and feel like a loser myself. but no ur not bound to be a loner for ever you just have to put yourself out there and start small conversations and see how it goes from there.
2007-01-20 01:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by introverted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to feel like you "need" to date. I didn't go on my first date until I was 17, I am 21 now still with no relationship. It is not a big deal really. I have a shy problem too, the only way to cure it is to do things that make you outgoing. Take a speech class, or do something extracuricular that involves interacting with others. It will take time, but if you put yourself into situations where you have to interact, you will learn.
Its the only way.
2007-01-20 01:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way you really sound like me and that sounds so weird but you are living my story I am sixteen and in Feb I will be seventeen I had never had a boyfriend either because I am really shy around guys though I am a bit popular and my mom told me to wait be patient your day will come. I started talking more not hanging around my same group of friends all the time getting involved more. I was at work one day and I met my first boyfriend about four days ago. So wait you sound like wonderful girl don't rush it let it come to you it will fall in to place in time.
2007-01-20 01:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by pinkeypeekaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started dating in 7th grade but it wasnt serious... but dont feel bad i was very shy for a long time and what helped me was just telling myself over and over again how beautiful i am and how great i am... it really helps! and soon enough ull start believing urself and gain confidence and once u have that confidence start changing ur tomboy appearance a little too b more girly then u will b on ur way to dating! and keep smiling and give it time i have suffered the same thing (sort of). love u dude!lol jk.
2007-01-20 01:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by The butter duchess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not bound to loneliness..I didn't start dating until I was 17 so ur a step ahead of me...u'll find a guy to go out with one of these days don't be patient....its better that u wait and get a really good guy...than rush things and get a real loser...:) AS for breaking ur shyness try going into places where u feel comfortable me personally I'm not a drop it like its hot club girl...I tend to go to the jazz clubs and that where I'm comfortable talking to people and stuff...and force urself to talk to people even if ur shy ...good luck
2007-01-20 01:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by soulfullilangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a total confidence booster. you just need to feel totally confident and that make syou feel like you could do anything. and you just need to find a person that you like, i don't really know exactly how your feeling cause i've been "dating" since like 5th grade. but alot of my friends are like that and i say that htey just need to feel confident. and then they will feel like they can ask anyone to do anything, and that is the same thing that iam telling you. that you should find that one thing that totaly boosts your confidence and do it. then go and talk to a cute boy. thats always fun. lol lots of luck.
2007-01-20 01:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nessers V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not gonna be alone for ever....you are still very young. Do not rush into anything...the right person will come along when you are not looking. Focus on discovering yourself and your purpose in life...the right person will come along...There is no need to have to date a whole bunch of losers just for the sake of it...
2007-01-20 01:31:32 · answer #11 · answered by DrLuv 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋