how can i find my question that have been answered?????? hi im a 25yr old hard working mom with one child i am in a relationship for 8yrs and my bf 28yrs is also a hard workng guy, let me get to the story for the 8yrs we were dating felt like a hell hole he cheated on my with more then one girl i catch him over 3 times with women in his bed i always forgive him and take him back but this time it hurt even harder i cannt forgive myself for giving him the forth time now im always crying and mad at myself and am always upset when he's around now that he's talking about marriage am not sure if i really wants to do that he really wants this to workout but what good of a relationship... when theres no trus the finds the love and trust he wants in me but im still hoping to find that mr right what should i do
2007-01-19 17:18:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why do you think so little of yourself that you would allow this man to treat you this way?
you are smart enough to know that this cannot work... and you are strong enough to do what is right for you and your child
you need to look in the mirror and decide if you deserve better... and you do... and then begin to put together a plan of how to get it... and then carry out your plan... (get some help from a friend or two so that you don't get manipulated again)
you can do this -- i can see the strong person in your message
2007-01-19 17:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are too forgiving. I would have left his a** after the second time he cheated. You don't want to marry a guy who has already cheated on you 4 times. Marriage will not make him stop. You are going to get yourself into a situation thats gonna make your life hell. Do not marry him. Keep looking for Mr. Right. He exists! Do not look at how long you two have been together, at least you can say he isn't the one for you.
2007-01-20 01:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chaquita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, DO NOT MARRY THIS GUY! You will be setting your self up for more heartache than you can imagine! He will cheat on you even more once you're married, trust me! I don't know why but, men do once we've made that commitment it's like," now I know she won't leave me since I've given her what she wants, to be married"! Don't do this to yourself and your child, move on and let your Mr. Right find you, dear!
2007-01-20 01:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been really forgiving, but you are smart not to jump into marriage. No rush, take your time, but if he cheats again, he needs to be put to the curb. If he doesn't, maybe your mercy has changed his heart. In short, wait, and let him continue to prove himself.
2007-01-20 01:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just by you posting this questions shows that you already know what to do .... if you have to question the relationship then there really isn't one ..move on and find happiness within you before you try to get into a new relationship ... no one can truly love you until until you love yourself
2007-01-20 01:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by ptmamas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋