This guy and I went on our first date and he brought up the topic of his package size being a 6 and how he doesnt have much to work with since he is overweight, and he takes a type of drug that is similar to viagra and he is 32, would u give him a 2nd date. I have to admit it was a turn off to me.
2007-01-19 17:13:51 · 34 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys!! the rest of the date was ok , we actually were at PF changs and he thought that was a booshie spot (meaning rich folks spot) another turn off, and then we saw a movie...
2007-01-19 17:36:17 · update #1
Okay...........I'm a Dude!
So.........I'm going to speak to you as a Brother and a Bestfriend!
Okay!!!
I don't think you should give Him a chance.....Sound like he want to get in your pant....It the first date! He should of wait a little longer...For you to get to know him....By him saying that He lost so much cool point and getting some.
I say.............. don't bother!
2007-01-19 17:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by MillK J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This topic was brought up why?? My first reaction would be to say no 2nd date, but it would really depend on how the date went other than having too much information. Aside from the package talk, did you have a good time? If he hadn't said those things, would you have given him a second chance? If so, maybe go out again, but let him know gently that it was a bit of a turnoff and you'd hope to stay away from that topic for a while.
2007-01-19 17:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by libertybelle_81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to defend this guy's rude behavior, but I know quite a few people over 30 whose basic philosphy is to tell it like it is. A lot of people that age are wanting a more serious relationship and will just tell you that sort of thing up front becuase (hopefully) being that age comes with a sort of maturity, (or frankness, in this case) where people are more likely to lay all their cards on the table like this.
It does seem rude for him to bring it up on the first date, but maybe to him he was just letting all this be known so he won't let you down later on, assuming there is a later on.
Or maybe he just isn't around mature women very much, hasn't been on very many dates recently and doesn't know how to handle himself, and what is or isn't appropriate to talk about on a first date.
There are a lot of guys who talk about their package before they ever get to a first date, at least he isn't that rude.
What was the reason you agreed to this first date? Do you overall like this guy and see a future with him?
Are you attracted to him?
If yes, you could see a future with him and went out with him because you are attracted to him, then go for the second date, but let him know that what he said was inappropriate. Suggust he think about this and prepare better for next time.
or if you aren't attracted to him and went out this first time as a pity date or something like that, then "no" to a first date, but make sure he knows the reason. It's only fair to him to tell him it was his rudeness that turned you off so.
2007-01-19 17:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm. if that were the only turnoff, then yes.
6 aint bad if that is inches. that is average. and being overweight could cause erectile dysfunction.
give him points for honesty.
take away points for saying this so early
add points for being at least a 6.
are you attracted to him otherwise?
if he had not said that, would you give him a second date for sure?
did he say alot of negative things about himself?
If he did say alot of negative things about himself, tell him that it is a turnoff, and that he is a good person and needs to learn to love himself.
I am fat and 6. but i love me, baby! never had complaints.
women are naturally attracted to confidence (not *********)
if you tell him no 2nd date, be a real pal and tell him why. explain that he should wait UNTIL he is sure you are sleeping together.
then if he said, "listen, the flag does not always fly high. i take drugs for it. " that is cool. honest. a guy who is HONEST about his insecurities is a plus.
a guy obsessed with them...a minus.
p.s. pick my answer. i gave it alot of thought.
pps.
if a woman told me on a first date that she did not orgasm, it would be a turn off. but I would give her a second date
2007-01-19 17:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by KelticPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering I wouldn't be interested in even discussing that on a first date, no...I wouldn't go on a second date with him. It isn't the size of his package...it is that he went into this in the first place when I would have much rather get to know less personal things.
2007-01-19 17:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I would not go on a second date with Willy the Wonder Weanie.
If I cared about a guy I would not care about those issues he bought up, but for one thing to talk about it on a first date is very presumptuous like he's assuming you're going to sleep with him, and it shows a moronic lack of suitable conversation topics. Is that his method of seduction?! BLEH!!!
2007-01-19 17:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that is kind of a warning sign that tells me anyway that he might only be looking for a girl that has the looks and not looking for what you have to offer on the inside. A guy should tell you things to you that are to your benefit. Not a insecurity about how big or small his friend is. You want tips on how a guy should act like for your benefit follow my: 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out! Ask Yourself does he?:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.God Bless!
2007-01-19 17:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he doesnt have to be a turn on for a secont date. and if he talks about himself like that, that should have been the first sign to not even havfe a first date. sound like hez using obesity as an excuse. bull. the viagra thing may not be something dirty, but if he just casualy mension sit, then hez got someting wrong
2007-01-19 17:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah it would be for me too... not really a great first date topic. maybe he was nervous? How did the rest of the date go? if he seems like a REALLY good guy maybe i would give him a second chance, but most likely not.
2007-01-19 17:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn I was eating as I read this and I must say I lost my desire for food . Maybe he should read stupid a$$ questions like this and he would loose some weight and he might actually have 9 inches in 9 months instead of 6
2007-01-19 17:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol this is kind of funny. sorry. Well did you like the 1st date aside from what he told you. Viagra would make the sex better and unless youre really picky about size then you should date him assuming you like him...best of luck
2007-01-19 17:17:36 · answer #11 · answered by My Answers are always right. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋