ok we have known each other for about 6 mos, we both feel we are made for each other, and we get along perfect and everything is great from the sex to conversations we have and we both can see that eventually we will marry, i tell her alot we should just take our time since we think that neither of us is going anywhere, so according to your point of view, if everything is allways great how much time should we take before we go to the next level, i mean we call each other friends BUT neither of us are flirting or seing any one else. so what do you think?
2007-01-19 17:11:56 · 13 answers · asked by DUSTY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like you have the perfect relationship that some people search for their entire lives and never find so congrats to you for that. as for moving to the next level you both need to be ready and only the 2 of you know when that is. best of luck :)
2007-01-19 17:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's an old addage that says, "If it isn't broken, don't fix it."
You say the sex is good, and that the conversations you have are good. You're already talking about marriage, so it's obvious you're on the same page.
You already ARE at the "next level," friend. The only way you can get any closer to her than you already are is if you actually do marry.
I only see one caveat: you say you're "friends." Now, granted, you didn't say "just friends," which is a showstopper in any relationship. You said "friends."
This is where you want your relationship to be! A good friendship is the foundation of ANY successful romantic relationship. You have that already.
And the reason that you're not flirting or seeing anyone else is because you're flirting with and seeing each other, whether you're willing to admit that to anyone (or yourselves) or not.
But as far as the amount of time it takes, that's up to you. You can stay "friends" up until the day you marry, or you can just make it official and be a couple. No one will think less of you either way. Just make sure you know where you stand.
2007-01-20 01:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you should give it a few more weeks and in those few weeks try to think of something the two of you can do together that will seem as though you two are man and wife. Maybe a vacation somewhere alone romantic and serene where only the two of you have each other to talk to. Turn off the cell phones and no laptops. It's wintertime now so, I suggest a cabin in the woods, or travel to where it is warm like Florida(if you are not there already). Point I am trying to make is for you to come up with something that will be a lasting memory for you both to come. I hope this helps, good luck!
2007-01-20 01:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you already feel comfortable talking about anything, and are intimate with each other, then I would say you already have the relationship started, but neither of you have taken that next step yet. I would start casually put the idea of a relationship on the table. Mention that you are tired of the single life, and would like to start a relationship with her, if she's ready, and find out what your expectations are of each other. Maybe she's just dying for you to make the next move. Or maybe she's scared. Either way, you really need to talk to her soon. It will take the pressure and the uncertainty off your mind, and make it easier for you to decide where to go from there.
2007-01-20 01:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ure saying that u two arent exactly gfbf ? ...as for ure net level does that means going steady ? ..if it is then why not since u guys get along well together ..n able to confirm the bond bw the two of u being an item...as for marrying , if ure young ..i think at least date for 2 yrs or so before deciding .,.(so each other flaws will be known n dull by the other partner ) ...
2007-01-20 01:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you both want to be in a relationship but are waiting for the other one to ask for a commitment. possibly one or both of you are afraid of commitment or have been hurt recently or don't want to be seriously involved. i suggest you ask this person if they want an exclusive relationship, where you don't date anyone else and consider each other boyfriend/girlfriend. that is the first step you should take. you have known each other long enough to determine whether or not this is desireable without jumping in too soon.
2007-01-20 01:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel you man... i dated a girl off and on for a year and 7 months now.. same feeling... dont rush your self... you already had sex you might want to move on and do it now but gettin engaged young and moving it on to a higher level leaves bad things ... you dont hav em uch exprience in the outer world of you two... which leads eyes to stray away from the other... in both cases... of course your young passion is strong in you and your significant other... be young ... go on dates .... do things like... walk around the down town area at night dancing around jsut with ehr not caring.. go ice skating... do some thing that will always be with you ... some thing that in your worst pain or on your deat h bed whe nyou think about it witll make you smile.... and re a sure you every thing is going to work.. slow dance to no music in the middle of a crowded place... go to a theme park and spend the day expriencing new thrills, spend a day together then go on a walk over a bridge... stopping at the top to confess your inner most feelings to her... face to face no lvoe notes no over im's straight to her... its a steady relationship live it up man!... dont be afraid to let your self go...
~Quin.
2007-01-20 01:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Quin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of you two. If you're under 18, I would suggest you wait until after Graduation. If you're over 18, Follow your heart, and if you want to, pray and seek His wisdom in this question.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-20 01:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by jmbarcus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships happen in their own time. My "friend" has been living with me almost a year. We are not "together" but we live together and **** only each other. He even wants me to have his baby.
I think if you know fully what you're getting yourself into then fine. But don't rush into any commitments or promises until you know who and what you're dealing with. If you're happy, you're happy. Time doesn't tell.
2007-01-20 01:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by ghanstabytch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already having sex. What IS "the next level"??
2007-01-20 01:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋