i need some advice,please?

Question

This is going to be a weird question...I met this guy through a friend of mine, we have been texting a little bit but have not had the chance to go out on a date yet cause of our busy work schedules..WEll he calls me probably like 5 times a day and texts me non stop so it seems some what overwhelming..Then he left a message saying how he cannot wait to see me cause he has pictured like 100 ways of violating me in his head..That creeped me out a little bit, he keeps saying how he wants to see me so bad and what not..Any advice should I stay away from him? is that creepy? My best friend thinks so but in his eyes no one is ever good enough for me so I need some outside advice

Answer 1

did he say 100 ways to violate you?
or 100 ways to have sex with you? (first is CREEPY, second could be creepy)

Do you want to have sex with him? If you are not sure, or no, then stay AWAY!

this guy is A) moving fast B) hypersexual C) creepy

when he calls are you glad? you don't seem to be.

don't tell him he creeps you out.

just tell him: "you are moving too fast, and that is a turn off. I think we should call it off."

I once went out on a date and like just a few hours into it I said something very sexual and suggestive and she was like, "yes! let's roll!" it was cool.

but I had a VIBE that she WANTED to get sexual. Now if you have been flirting and sexual with him, then maybe he is assuming you want sex. don't be dumb. if you flirt with a guy and are suggestive, he is gonna get turned on. so don't unless you WANT to do something. otherwise you are a tease.

if you DO go see him, becaues you are flirty and ready to roll, I would stay in public places. do not get in a car alone with a guy who wants to "violate" you.

also, how good is this "friend" that introduced you? ask them about him.

Answer 2

Have you told the friend that introduced the two of you about his behavior? He sounds obsessive! I dont' like that he said something like "he'd thought of 100 ways to violate you"...that is creepy. I'd text him back with something like....I'm not into being violated....and you're acting a bit obsessive....if your behavior continues I don't think I'll want to go out with you. He'll either get the message or he won't and if he doesn't...well then you know what to do...don't go out with him!

Answer 3

Nic...in my opinion, your safety is worth more than the loss of this dude..anyone that says anything about "violation" of you ...would be dumped FAST..and move on....that is not a normal healthy way of starting a relationship. Who in their right mind would say that to a girl. He has been watching too many hard core films or has a mean streak. Of all the young men out there I'm sure you will meet someone who has your interest at heart and has no desire to abuse you. You should feel you are worth more! Each day we have to make decisions ...and this one I'd vote NO!

take care of yourself,
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 4

Perhaps he didn't mean it the way it sounds (you could ask him to elaborate and go from there).
Just to be sure (unless his text message explanation is still freaky) I would meet with him either with your friends or in a public place with your own way home (car,take a cell phone and let someone know your whereabouts). Trust your instincts if he looks, sounds or acts strange or creepy cut your date short and run.

Answer 5

If you build things up too much before you so out there is sure to be disappointment. If he creeps you out by what he is saying , don't respond back with any sexual comments, change the subject. Remember guys are sexualy driving it is hard for them to focus an much more. Try to tone it down with what you say to him, maybe he will catch on,,, I said maybe!!!

Answer 6

First of all ask this friend of yours who introduced the two of you about this guy's character. If you trust your friend's advice then meet in a public place or with other friends around and case him out for yourself. Could just be some overzealous harmless flirting or he could be a real weirdo. Be cautious!

Answer 7

just tell him that you think things are moving too fast for you, and maybe even BS a little bit, for instance: you just got out of a tough and long relationship and youre not ready to start another one, or perhaps that you are only looking for a friend. Dont let him continue this behaviour or he will only become more and more excited to see you; and it will become harder and harder to tell him youre not really into him! so do it and get it over with!

Answer 8

Sounds like a stalker to me. Test him by not answering his calls or texts for one day and see if things get weirder. You could say you dropped your phone in the toilet and it had to air dry for the night. If he calls you more than 20 times and leaves 10, no 8 voice mails, then he's a stalker! You know what to do then.

Answer 9

No harm in just meeting him once maybe again through that common friend...try to get some feedback from him/her. Probably this guy is just trying to have fun out of all this.

Answer 10

It's just a little early to inform if he like,s you however he;s definately interested. Just do not seel your self to him, ya understand? Try to preserve your choices open simply in case this does not determine. It seems like matters are going well thus far, however simply preserve doing what you are doing. It it is understanding, matters must deal with themselves. =] well success!