Would it bother you if your boyfriend had all females for friends and hangs out with them or is on the computer communicating with them daily? What if there is one female in particular that you do no like at all and you asked him to stop being friends with her for that reason and he does not respect your feelings and remains friends with her anyway? How would you handle this?
2007-01-19 16:55:22 · 19 answers · asked by luciousgreeneyedlady 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you feel like this then it is time for you to move on
move on
2007-01-19 17:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Were they good friends before you were in the picture? If he's been friends with them for quite some time, then you should feel secure in your relationship. Now, if he's always hanging around different females and maybe even flirting with them, then there's a problem. When you asked him to quit hanging out with the one girl, was there a specific reason for it or just because you don't like her? I can understand asking him to not see her if she's hanging all over him and their flirting, but if it's just because you don't like her and they've been friends for some time, then you should never have asked him to stop seeing her in the first place. The computer is another issue though. Even if they've been friends for some time, he should still be paying attention to you rather than chatting with them online all the time. Bottom line: If he's been friends with them for a long time, try to be friends with them as well. If he's doing it for the female attention, then you deserve better.
2007-01-19 17:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would bother me very much...Depending on your age, guys don't have female friends that they haven't messed with. If you are an adult, more than likely, he has messed around with the majority of them. Considering you asked him to stop talking to one in particular and he refuses should tell you that he values his friendship with her more than he values his relationship with you. At the same time, she was his friend before you were his girlfriend....
If this is some girl he only know thru the net, don't worry about it too much, but if he actually can visit this girl then you need to figure out how long you can deal with this.
2007-01-19 17:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I really cared about this guy, i would never even THINK of telling him to give up one of his friends just because I dont like her. Thats a terrible thing to request and if a boyfriend ever told me to stop being friends with one of my guy friends i would lose some serious respect for him. If he isnt interested in any of them as more than friends, theres no reason to be jealous. So as long as he treats me special, like his girlfriend, then its okay if he prefers hanging out with females.
2007-01-19 17:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother had a lot of female friends who were really more like other sisters, but his fiancee felt very threatened by a few of them. She went so far as to make sure that they weren't even invited to the wedding and doesn't allow them to speak anymore. This not only ruined his friendships with these girls, but it hurt the whole family since we all knew them. She really had no reason for the concern since one of them was even married herself with three kids. He "respected her feelings" and it hurt more than just him....you need to take a look at the situation and ask who all will be affected and if the threat is real or if you're just jealous. And you need to ask yourself how you would feel if he asked you to stop speaking to one of your guy friends....would you think that was fair?
2007-01-19 17:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by libertybelle_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They obviouslly have history and you do not like the fact that he talks to her. But look at it this way do not pressure him..actions speak louder than words. If you you told him once and he chooses not to listen do not nag do not raise your voice if it bothers you that bad just walk away. And female friends are nothing it is what you do with those female friends that makes it a problem.
2007-01-19 17:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if a guy has a lot of friends he is sometimes more feminin-ish than other guys (like my guy friend) or he is just.. too hot so girls love him. I think its usually the 1st and you shouldnt worry too much. Like of course i will be worried, but i will have to trust him unless he starts cheating. If you trusted and liked ur boyfriend, u woudlnt ask him to stop being friends wiht someone.. u might tell him that u feel like he doesnt like u enough, but dont tell somoene to stop being friends
2007-01-19 17:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either accept it or move on. Males and females can be friends without anything else going on. You do not have the right to ask him to give up a friend. This is your insecurity, either get over it or move on, before he moves you on.
2007-01-19 16:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he was friends w/ her before you, you can't ask him to stop. But yea, I wouldn't like ALL his friends being girls (a few is OK) And hanging out & the computer? NO way!!!!
2007-01-19 17:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kadi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be really suspicious, either is he gay or is he a playboy???
If I don't like one female friend in particular, then I would tell him about it. BUT REALLY think about the first question I asked.
2007-01-19 16:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by funkychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of my boyfriend's friends are female. I trust him and his judgement of people (he picked me after all!).
I would never ask him to give up friendships for me. I respect him too much for that. I have, however, insisted that we do things with his friends (and significant others if they have them).
Asking him to give up his friends would not be good for him...it is much better for me to try harder to make them "our" friends.
2007-01-19 17:03:44 · answer #11 · answered by contemplating 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋