my girlfriend is a performer and is away all the time.i love her alot but she is never happy.i have done everything i can think of i massage her feet,i tell her i love her,i buy her stuff she wished she could buy.i think about her so much i dont know what to do...she is also vary jelous of me(i dont even do anything)she will make up thing to be angry about then i spend hours telling her she's just being silly.i dont understand it she will get jelous of everthing.i can't do anything without being afraid shes going to get angry......please i need help!
2007-01-19 16:44:03 · 18 answers · asked by jonny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that she is just going through some rough times, maybe somethings that happened in the past are coming back to her or somethings going on.... but hearing from what u said, i agree with the first answer, that u can't really help her except for keep conforting her cause if u break up with her, like one of these people said, it might make her even more of a reck. Probably deep down inside, she may not be showing it, but she loves ya. so dont worry about it.
2007-01-19 16:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by carcrash1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess all i can say is are you sure you love her so much? I mean it sounds like more things bug you then they don' t. Plus she sounds kind of like she takes everything for granted... if you are a nice careing boyfriend and she still treats you like she always needs to beat you it can't be much of a realtionship. YOu should be able to go with your boyfriend/ girlfriend and forget about all the competitions and problems in your life and jsut relax and have fun.... that sounds more like love to me. If you aren't doing anythign wrong then i don't know what her problem is... if you have tried to talk to her and she won't listen i would take matters into your own hands.... what you decide to do however, is up to you.
2007-01-19 16:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by luckystar53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a jerk to keep putting up with this narcissistic b***h. When is playing you. If in fact she is a jealous as you say she is, and yet she is away most of the time, she is transferring her guilt to you to make up for what she does when she is away. Refuse to answer the phone or to see her again. If she keeps insisting, have her sign a contract on what your relative roles are. If she refuses, ask her best friend for a date (or her sister if she has one.)
2007-01-19 16:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Cythian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend has some problems that she is projecting on you. If she thinks you are untrustworthy - it may be that she is untrustworthy. If she is unhappy - there isn't a thing you can do to make her happy. Only you can facilitate her happiness: she has to make herself happy.
Something else if bothering her - usually women will make something up in order to cover it up. Try to get her to talk about it what makes her angry - you may be able to figure out what the trigger is.
2007-01-19 16:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant keep anybody that doesnt want to be kept. If she is always unhappy then you will always be unhappy. You dont want that in a relationship. You love her and thats good but you need to talk to her and make sure a relationship is still what the both of you want.
2007-01-19 16:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it or leave her.
Don't tell her she is silly. Ask her why she feels that way and try to empathize. There is something else going on that she's not telling you (maybe she doesn't know how to put it into words? or isn't even aware that it's there). She's just expressing feelings and it has nothing to do with you (even if it sounds like it does) -- don't take it personally, just let her express her feelings.
2007-01-19 16:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by contemplating 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the material things. Go on a long walk, set by the water, play games. We gals love the romance. The gifts are icing on the cake...but you are just icing. Where's the cake?
FYI men!!! , if you are buying our love then who are you giving yours away to.
2007-01-19 16:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her. She obvously doesn't appreciate your kindness and you deserve someone who does. You will only be hurt more in the long run. Jealousy is a bad sign. The ones who are guilty are most suspicous.
2007-01-19 16:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by petenick_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Performers need to be the center of attention. I once dated a concert violinist. She was the same way. It was all about her. Relationship was all one way. I finally woke up and dumped her.
2007-01-19 16:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh I had an ex that way!! miserable alcoholic insecure mean!!
your girlfriend isnt going to change while youre in the relationship.
that is something she will have to learn once youre gone and dont look back. unless she is willing to see how it is pushing you away instead of bringing you closer, its not something you can fix.
2007-01-19 16:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋