Several years ago I became very close friends with a young lady in which we shared so much in common. Five years later I married my best friend, she went to the Army and we lost contact for about a year. We crossed pathes and decided to go out to dinner. Well that was the last I saw of her. By this time I wasn't going to clubs and she was, I was working on my third degree, attend church and so on. She was still doing the thing we did 10 years earlier. I finaly got her # and called her. She said that she felt we were not on the same level, and that everytime we talk things were different. Is it possable to loos friends as we grow older and our lives change?
2007-01-19 16:29:14 · 14 answers · asked by Netta D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure it is, there may be some friends that you have forever, but most of the time people come in, and then go out, of your life. It sounds like you don't have much in common any more. Better to find people who share your same choices in life. You can always appreciate the friendship that you shared with her.
2007-01-19 16:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Peoples lives change and take different paths on their journey through life. You have been improving yourself through education for one thing. That alone has opened a whole new universe for you. You're married, which has a whole different set of priorities and goals. Just those 2 things alone present a whole different set of possibilities for new friends. Some people change, some don't. Sounds like your friend is in a rut, if she hasn't changed in 10 years. And a rut is just a grave with both ends kicked out. It's too bad she hasn't changed, because there is a big wonderful world out there to explore. But you have to grow and change, like a seed to a plant to experience it all.
2007-01-19 16:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bratster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to college, got married, had kids, and took a job as a vibration analyst for the world's largest privately owned corporation. My best friend dropped out of high school, lives in a van in the middle of Arkansas, and has literally worked 500+ jobs in the last ten years. But we still keep in close contact - even though I have to call his nearest pay phone.
2007-01-19 16:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by NONAME 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow apart - you chose different paths. It sounds to me that your path is the more mature path. Clubbing and partying are fun for a while, when you are young - but when you mature, you find it empty and shallow. She's not there yet. She may never be.
2007-01-19 16:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is unfortunately. Me and one of my old friends don't talk much anymore because she does things that I don't agree with. She constantly put me down and now I have a good friend from church. I have always prayed for a good christian friend and I finally found one. Pray about it. I will pray for you too. Sometimes it is for the better though. God bless
2007-01-19 16:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by suzy-Q 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you have moved on and she hasn't. Yes some people grow and change and mature, sounds like you have. It is a shame that your friend feels like you don't match anymore, but sometimes that is not a bad thing.
2007-01-19 16:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone if you determine you will have to compromise your values to hold on to the friendship.
It is not friend if they require you to compromise your values to remain your friend.
If you find something in commen you can do and still remain in contact fine. Otherwise, just make it plain you are open to being friends doing things you both can enjoy.
If you compromise yourself, you will always have to compromise.
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2007-01-19 17:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy Dean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately yes. ive lost contact with a lot of my old friends cuz ive moved a lot. and when we talk now we dont have much to talk about nemore
2007-01-19 17:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by From Someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont be easy at all....i have a gay friend I havent seen in three years....He writes once a year when I send birthday email...He is too wrapped up in that and doesnt go to church anymore....very msad
Youre so different and she may feel guilty....find ppl more like you..
2007-01-19 16:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just move on and out grow old friendships.
2007-01-20 04:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Out on a limb returns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋