Well guys, I mentioned couple of months ago that I was dating this girl who broke up with her boyfriend a month prior to our dating. We dated for 2months. She told me that she was done with her ex, that was why I continued in my pursuit and thought she and I had something together. She later told me that she is going to try working it out again with her ex to see if things might work. I am completely distraught. I feel used. I dont know where to go from here. Guys what should I do? I hate this feeling. I wish it can go away, but it still stays.
2007-01-19 16:27:50 · 14 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd tell her "you cant teach old dogs new tricks unless you smack them with a paper" aka.. the ex will go back to his old ways but since you decided to smack me around i have learned a new trick so next time you come wanting to get back with me you will see that i have learned to say no.
2007-01-19 16:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by painfully yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that's a real bummer.
You can have two thoughts on this one.
You can either be A) pissed off at her and her ex, why did she show feelings toward you and suddenly drop them because her old flame was avalaible again?
or
B) Understanding, upset but willing to look at her point of view.
I guess if you look at it that way you don't run the risk of pissing her off in case you should find yourself with her again.
But it sucks. I know the feeling, you're like "wow, I got used and she's off banging some guy she met well before me. I'm a tool."
2007-01-20 00:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jakewriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first stop and think. If you had douts when she told you then why would you continue it. Never date a girl that JUST broke up with someone, it was wayy to soon and I think you knew that. Now saying that .. it happened, nothing you can do to change that. You just need to get over it. If she calls you back and wants something, you need to tell her no. Ten to one says she will do it to you again and you'll be here, doing the samething as you are now......alll over again!
Don't wish to be harsh but you need to be told.
Good Luck!
2007-01-20 00:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by gord's360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn my brother. You were what we call the "rebound" guy. It happens to the best of us just remember next time when she has just broken up with her boyfriend after just a short time, you need not plunge head first and keep your heart safeguarded from play. The "rebound" guy must always assume she'll go back to her ex until you have established your foundation with her.
2007-01-20 00:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but you were her rebound. That was a lesson that you needed to learn. Be very very careful about dating someone who just got out of a relationship. 9 times out of 10 - it is not over yet.
I'm sorry to tell you this but you're going to have to deal with the pain in order to heal. Also, please don't let this make you bitter, This has happened to the best of us. It doesn't make you a weak or vulnerable person, It just means you're human with real emotions.
Good luck and keep your head up.
2007-01-20 00:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz you got played.
but really take it as a lesson learned... chicks on rebound are almost always not a good idea.
next time she or another person comes your way from a break up give her a girls number to go talk too about her woos and whoas......cuz all she will do is fall for you and fall quickly out of you when she is healed by your coming to the rescue and leave you in pain.......get yourself a girl way over her break up...you aint chop liver dude.
2007-01-20 00:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is let her go, cause if you fight and hold onto her then it wont work between the 2 of you cause she will still want him. Dont focus all of your emotions on her find something new to distract your mind.
2007-01-20 00:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not feel used. that is really part of courting. you can't win them all. all you have to do is accept that she is not for you then move on. go out with your friends. stay away from the girl. find other company. the process of forgetting is not abrupt. it takes time. be patient. meet other women. decide that you want to move on and take it from there.
2007-01-20 00:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make a mental note of it... file it away... People are assholes. Do you really want to date someone who is fine with hurting you just to satisfy her own fickleness. In the meantime hang out with your buddies, go to the gym, keep yourself occupied.
2007-01-20 00:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry she hurt you. I don't think she used you, rather that her ex probibly begged and begged. They won't work out cuz it never does the second time...remember that when she comes crying back to you.
2007-01-20 00:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋