please explain. can they live a normal life without going to therapy?
2007-01-19 16:15:11 · 22 answers · asked by sexy-cecy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it depends on how strong they are. Some of us put it on a back burner, some of us can't handle it. I have never been to therapy for it, but I did get treated for depression in 1999, and I still cringe when my stepfather hugs me. I kind of learned to handle it , I guess, but I would never let my daughters go visit their grandfather in the summertime. He lived and lives still in Missouri with his wife of 32 yrs. When my girls got older i explained to them why they were never allowed to go visit him and they refused to let their daughters go too.
If you feel you cannot handle it on your own, by all means get help. My girlfriends daughter was molested by her father and now she is bi-polar and her therapist told her mother that the molestation is what drove her there. So I think it depends on the person and the extent to which the molestation happened. None of it is good, some of us can just handle it. I don't think about it until I see my stepfather, then I know for a fact I am glad I made the decision to keep my daughters away from him. I live in Texas, and he doesn't come and visit anymore, so I don't really think about it.
2007-01-19 16:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by myninny54 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They can lead normal healthy lives yes. Some people can not afford therapy so they just have to deal with it the best way that they know how to. Seeing someone or having someone to talk to about it is always best of course but it doesn't have to be a psychologist it can be a friend or something like that. It should be someone unbiased though to help the person get through the pain that is involved in being molested. Many molested children grow up with a very low self esteem and feel they must please everyone. Now each individual is different. No One cure all for all molested children and they do not all grow up to be molesters. Multitudes grow up to lead successful productive lives without therapy. So long as they come to the realization it was not thier fault that it happened.
2007-01-19 16:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by 'lil peanut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the personality and who molested them. If it was dad, or mom's brother. You might have a hard time trusting men. But, everyone could use therapy for something. If it happened to you, don't feel guilty, (even if you didn't mind it). You will be fine if you don't blame yourself.
2007-01-19 16:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the big issue would be trust. they also have problems with sex but I understand why. I dont think that they would have a normal life without therapy because they need help to understand all the issues that go with this.
2007-01-19 16:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.. as long as you can come to terms with it, and accept that what happened isnt your fault and sooner or later forgive them ( you'll never forget ) but forgive them and just move on you can. As far as problems i am sure every one is different, but having sex you do run into some problems, it depends on what happened to you, but some things are very uncomfortable and you just dont like to do them. Tell your partner that, if you dont want to give them details, just give them a hint they will catch on, and if they cant handle that you dont like to do that, then they are not worth your time. And remember just becuase you were molested doesnt mean you cant be happy and be perfectly normal person.
2007-01-19 16:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by KRISSY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe so. But not if they bottle it up inside. Talk about it ...get angry about it...cry about it....and learn from it. 10 years of my life were filled with sexual abuse and I'm ok....most of the time..lol. If you always question your motives and choices and be brutally honest about it then you may find that you can deal with the inevitable relationship problems (like trust and sexual issues and anger etc) your going to face. Trust your instincts. Call a help line and listen to their advice on how to heal yourself. Do whatever it takes but dont be a victim for too long. Be strong and dont give up...it does get better but it takes time and work.
2007-01-19 16:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by vmmc_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, from what my friend has told me,because she was molested by an uncle as a young child, she has a lot of phsycological issues, like, she can't really open up to people.
and i like to think that you can live a normal life without going to threapy,but, she does and i know that she will never forget her past....
2007-01-19 16:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi yess in life its not only molested that has hurt ppl but there meany ways that hurt ppl like moms dads being bad and kids seeing it living without them, but just like as we get older too things do happen bad ones too just that in out minds heats ways of thinking we never forget things that have hurt us but with time we learn to deal, live with it and leave it in our own past its for the best. if we can do that then theres a chance of being happy again but as long as we learn to put the past where it belongs and stop it from injoying life to come for now, what we say think or do with hurt in our past wont make it go away but make it easy to live with move on find love be happy for today just dont let thinking of the past hurts wreak our life today cose if we let it the chance of being happy ever is much less so be strong and live for today and not ones past.
2007-01-19 16:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well idol was molested and now he's a great pop icon you might know him he was recently on trial for having a good time with that kid from Home Alone I think you might know him he goes by the name Michael Jackson Mr.Jackson if your nasty, Hakuna matata bitches
2007-01-19 16:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was mollested as a child and I'm normal without therapy
2007-01-19 16:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋