I wonder this because a few weeks ago i took my 5 year old son to a birthday party and i stayed and so did all or most of the other moms. But one mom just left her son there. This party was at a public place not a persons house. This mom also brought her son over to my house one day and i was suprised how trusting she was to just leave him with us, without knowing us. Is this normal. Do other people drop their kids off anywhere. At what age do you start just dropping your kid off places?
2007-01-19 16:06:59 · 28 answers · asked by noone 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
my daughter is 6 and i cant imagine being comfortable with it for a LOOONG time.. actually we went to a school bday party at chuck e cheese last year and a bounce house place recently and i'd say the vast majority of parents just dropped off. maybe 2 or 3 stayed. I felt bad for these kids and ended up helping most of them out with cutting their pizza, getting them a drink, helping them find the bathroom etc. kinda irritates me to think that these parents think that 1. their kid is safe and 2. at 5 or 6 years old doesnt need HELP with some things. they arent going to know where a bathroom is in a strange place, etc. the other parents actually look at you like you're weird for hovering over your child or something but hellloo! they are 5/6 yrs old!
2007-01-19 16:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mina222 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My son is 6, almost 7. He went to a party just today that was mostly 5 & 6 year old boys. This was the first party where I've left him and picked him up at a later time. But I wasn't sure so I asked the parents first. I simply approached the dad and asked if it was a drop off or if they wanted the parents to stay. I asked this question a few days ago so I'd know in advance. I think once they are in about the first grade most parties are drop off parties. However, I'd have to know the parents somewhat well. This particular couple I've talked to quite a bit. Our boys do tae kwon do together. The party was at their house. However, if the party had been at a public place I probably would have insisted on staying.
2007-01-19 23:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mum of twins so if one is not invited I am unable to stay at the party. This is fine if I know the parent but if I didn't then I usually ask my parents to watch the uninvited child. I left one for the first time at the age of 5 but my friends were staying at the party. Now they are 7 I know the parents of the kids who invite them but it still depends on where the party is if I stay.
I know what you mean though. It was 6 weeks into kinder and I invited the whole class of 27 kids to the park for their party. I couldn't believe the amount of parents who didn't know me from a bar of soap that said "so we just drop them off and go?" I told them it is a public park and as I will busy getting food and running games ( and the fact I had no idea who their kids were as it had only started full sessions two weeks before) that a parent needed to stay. How on earth can parents leave their 4-5 year olds in the hands of a complete stranger is beyond me
2007-01-19 22:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do birthday parties for children, so I have a little bit of experience in this. I have done parties for kids as young as 3 where the parents just drop kids off. I think it depends a lot on the parents. I don't think it makes someone a bad parent to drop their kid off, but at the same time i don't think they will be winning a parent of the year award.
2007-01-19 16:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by byrdbrainz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have an established trustworthy association with the child and their parents and you (and the parents) have made contact regarding supervision and come to an agreement regarding the "what if's" then by all means go with letting your child enjoy the party. You start dropping your kids off at various events and places when you are confident that they are being supervised in a controlled environment. If the mother makes a habit of dropping her son at your house then question her regarding your concerns.
2007-01-19 20:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by super_ez1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time I left our daughter it was a brownie meeting, she had just joined. It felt very strange, I didn't really want to go home.
It surprises me just how prepared people are to leave their children with other people. I think that a responsible parent finds it difficult to do, I still feel odd when our daughter goes off to her Girl Scout things and she is 11 now. It does depend on the individual child. Our daughter, and other girls in her troop, have let parents know when they are happy to go off for half a day, a day or an overnight camp. They all feel different at different ages.
I wouldn't set an age limit, it is just when your comfort level and your child's comfort level allow it.
Overall, keeping my kid safe is my problem and I don't care if other parents think I'm too protective. Ignore the rest and do what you feel is right.
2007-01-19 16:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stewart H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually you stay at the party when they are young and all depends where the party is being held.9 upwards is when ifind parents not staying at all.A lot depends on the age of the child.Be thankful she trusts you with your son. I guess she is training her son to be independent and probably wanted a break. If the party is in a public place most parents go off and come back.
2007-01-19 16:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must know people better than you think and she is trusting the social surroundings but tho it isn't wise in my estimation I live in an area where that would be done, a small town where you know everyone and I would not necessarily call her a bad parent, who knows she might be sitting outside in her car. Probably 8 or 9 before you would leave them by there self and only if they had common sense and you as a parent taught them well. Good Luck, you sound like a good mom.
2007-01-19 16:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's best for the guest's Moms to remain there because the "birthday child's" Mom has her hands full it's hard to play games, get the cake and ice cream ready ...without the help of the other Moms. Plus, children tend to go wild when their Mom's are not around. It's just natural plus they need to go to the bathroom and they need extra watching. When the children get older about 9 or 10 and can care for themselves and are responsible that is a better age. It is supposed to be a "happy birthday"....not painful..right! LOL
Mama Jazzy Geri
2007-01-19 16:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just started letting my 11 almost 12 year old go places...She is on the cheerleading team in 6th grade...But never a 5 year old unless it was at a house of a Friend
2007-01-19 16:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by jewel64052 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋