my boyfriend is a virgen and so am i but he wants to have sex with me for the first time. and im a virgen and i want to but i dont know how it would feel or how i would react or become sexually active or sumthing so we both want to but he kinda pressures me a little what do i do?
2007-01-19 16:03:51 · 25 answers · asked by cool girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don’t want something you have never had. Why not wait until marriage so you can give your husband the most precious gift a spouse can give on their wedding night, a pure and undefiled body new and never used. After having sex you want it more and more and then you become used merchandise.♪
2007-01-19 16:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I can tell you it might seem to be the thing to do but if you feel like he is pressuring you, you are not ready. If you are hesitant in any way, DO NOT DO THIS. You will regret it. He might not, you will. If you allow him to pressure you into this, what will he pressure you into next?
Are you on any sort of birth control? Are you ready to be a mother? What if you get pregnant? IT CAN HAPPEN THE FIRST TIME, even if it is the only time you have sex.
I have included some links, you might want to educate yourself about what you are getting into. Please do....BEFORE you decide to do anything further. AND GET ON BIRTH CONTROL and USE Condoms. But... you would be much better off if you just said no.
If he can't wait then he needs to find a different girl. You are the only one that can set your standards for your future and demand the respect that you deserve. And you do deserve it. He will not respect you and will never respect you again if you cave to his pressure.
2007-01-20 00:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has nothing to lose, but you do! Respect is the beginning of love. If you have been dating him for a year or so, explain to him you want to wait, he will wait (he might even be relieved).You won't be hurting him in anyway, guys have wet dreams all the time and it feels great! So make him wait and quit bugging you. If you have dated him less than six months, he is being selfish. Would he let his sister have sex with his best friend? Why should he expect you to?
2007-01-20 00:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by T C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about your relationship, then the time will come sooner or later. You probably are not going to like it first. But if you love a man and he loves you it will make all the difference in the world. In any case, remember, that this is a great mystery also, and once you have been together like this he shares a part of you and you share a part of him.
2007-01-20 00:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it if the moment feels right. When it feels right, you don't feel as scared and pressured. He should wait for you, but if he pressures you he's probably just looking to score, whether or not he is a virgin. Just do what feels right. Use protection and if you say no, make sure he listens or tell someone what happened.
2007-01-20 00:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! And stick to your guns. Never feel pressured into sex because it will be the worst sex of you life. Trust me! Wait until you are truly in love. Waiting until marriage is even better!
2007-01-20 00:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by charles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl listen to your body...do not do it just cause you are trying to please him. I know that it is clique but if he rally cares for you he will understand that you are not ready yet or that you are scared. And if you are scared he will do things so that you will not feel that way. I mean trust yourself do not go against your gut of what YOU want to do. My first time I did it just cause the guy was pressuring me and i regretted it so once again listen to yourself.
2007-01-20 00:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your not ready that you wanna save yourself for marrage.
You have to remember you probably don't want to have a baby right now do you?
Tell him to back off with the pressure and tell him your not ready.
If he leaves you then he didn't love you!
2007-01-20 00:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by navy_seabee_wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts then don't do it,, because you will regret it...... my b/f was pressuring me too.... and we were both virgins...... but i want to do it with the one guys i have been waiting for my wheole life, not some loser that is just horny and watnts to use you....... you deserve better.... you might think that you want to have sex but if you have concerns and feel pressured then you obvious don't ... so wait..... IF HE LOVES YOU TRULY THE HE WILL WAIT... if not then you would know that you would have be just used and trashed afterwards
2007-01-20 00:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by your spelling, grammar and the fact that you're asking this question of complete strangers on the internet - I'd say you're much too young.
You have your whole life ahead of you to make that decision.
Wait.
2007-01-20 00:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋