I have known him for 31 years but we now live in different states, about an hour and 30 minutes apart. We re~connected thru emails and he says he can't wait to see me. I sent him my phone number. He has yet to follow thru with getting together, and has never called me. When I ask him questions he avoids answering me, but he still emails me. Also, he has been in my area several times but has not tried to get in touch with me. What should I do? Should I send him an email and tell him to make a move towards seeing me or calling me? I'm afraid if I get too demanding that I will scare him off completely. He was my first love.
2007-01-19 16:03:35 · 5 answers · asked by vfstardust 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would flat out ask him what he is playing at. ( and I mean it, do it) Maybe he just likes having you as a friend to email with. If he was in your area and didn't even contact you, I personally think it's crappy, BUT maybe he feels like your "just friends" and doesn't have to justify what he does. My advice, ask him how and what he thinks of your relationship. Does he feel more than just friends. Better to have your cards out on the table now. Don't be afraid of being demanding, he's obviously pulling your chain.
2007-01-19 16:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you in some part of his life however also sounds like he's got something cooking already and doesn't want to get deeper into you at this point . maybe to save you from hurt when he knows your looking for more and he can't deliver.
But it sounds like he's missing something in his life and you somehjow and him connect. He's just not ready for anything more at this point. You can tell by what he lacks in doing and what you have told us here. I wouldn't push. Trust me on this if a man wants to get to you he will. come hell or high water. its that simple. so you can think of all the excuses and stir up things in your mind but the bottom line is if he wants to be with you you will know soon enough.
i would just stick to emails and if you want more and you know this man can't do that right now move on.
2007-01-19 16:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been there and done that, I can say that life gets to knocking you around so fast the only time you think is when you set down to relax in front of the computor. It's not intentional, it's just life, and if you drop subtle hints he's apt to be halfway between places on the road before he starts to thinking about what you were getting at. So be blunt, let him know it could be a limited time opportunity because you are getting lonely and are apt to start searching.
2007-01-19 16:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he has been in your area several times and has not seen you .honey as hard as this for you to hear it's because he did not want to see you . he has not called you because he does not want to . he emails you probably when he has nothing better to do . i am sorry if i sound harsh but i am just telling you honestly my opinions .you need to move on .continue to be his friend if you wish but i would not expect anything more from him until he shows an interest himself.
2007-01-19 16:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's ignoring you because that is when he wants you the most. Ask him for his address and visit. You won't scare him off. Trust Me.
2007-01-19 16:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋