I dont know what to do or if i should even get involved. my bf he does some drugs an gets high with his friends and im scared for his health.i dont do drugs. he told me that he tried to stop but he is idicted. he also refuses for me to be by him whne he is high b/c he doent want me to see him like that.
also i am scared for his grades b/c we just got done with finials and he said that he didnt even take a couple of them b/c they wouldnt help his grade, he can be productive when he wants to be and he treats me great and i just want him to get somewhere in life , i try telling him to go to school more he just doesnt listen , im not his mom so im not gonna sit around and lecture him. he has a job so he must be able to work hard, im not gonna go dump him either, cause as i see it is that if god can except him then who am i to complain???
im just concerned, what can i do to help him???
2007-01-19 16:00:29 · 8 answers · asked by carebear_destroyer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he does somewhite rhino
2007-01-19 16:10:31 · update #1
Listen real close babe I have been here before do not do not push him what ever u do if u do u just gonna push him away try to be there 4 him the best u can and wait it out . Or if u don't really care move on drugs is an on going problem that has to be dealt with every day one day at a time. If you fell like u can't be there for him let him go. If he love u like u love him u both should accept each other the way u r drugs or not meaning go see him when he is high make him face his ghost.. GOOD LUCK TO U. If u need more answers tbilliter7@yahho.com
2007-01-19 16:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie Requiem for a Dream to show him how dangerous it is. Also, you can watch Gia to give yourself some strength to talk to him about it. In both of these movies, you find that drugs are bad for you, but some endings are better than others because in Gia the main character eventually gets clean. It depends on what kind of drugs he's doing, but I'd say anything besides marijuana is really damaging to your body.
Please just get the courage to talk to him. You might not want to dump him, but perhaps giving him the ultimatum of having you or the drug can help him see what's really important. However, if you don't want to be so blunt and bold, you can just have good, quiet conversations where you talk about helping him get clean and slowly weaning him off of them. After all, G-d might accept him here, but in heaven, who knows? It isn't judgement day yet, though.
2007-01-19 16:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many men, like fishes, out there and to entangled with one with an addictive personally at young age is not the way to go girl.
In as much as God would have him, then let God take care of him and you take care of yourself and move on to someone better.
Until he can love himself enough to get off drugs, then he can never truly love you. He certainly can't change his actions unless he wants to, for himself first, and then for you.
The only thing you can do to help him is to tell him he needs to find him - if he wants to keep you... so it becomes a battle of who/what does he love more - drugs or you?
2007-01-19 16:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change people. It is impossible.
All change comes from within.
Nothing you can do. Nothing you can say will have a magical effect on him.
He needs to have an event in his life that will want to make him change.
For most it is having something really really bad happen.
It usually takes prolonged misery, and the ability to see that a change is POSSIBLE for change to happen.
If you prop him up- and make life easy for him, he will not change- you will, in fact be enabling him to do it longer and do it more.
Only "enable" him when it comes to the positive things. Dont' feed him when stoned, don't lie for him, dont' clean up his puke or put him to bed.
At some point it may dawn.
2007-01-19 16:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was wondering what kind of drugs.. if just weed thats ok and if he wants to cut class.. well thats just not for him.. you can suggest stay in school but I know alot of people that are doing ok without it.. But if he's into Really Hard drugs.... Yeah Get him help.. But don't lecture him.. Not worth your happy relationship.
2007-01-19 16:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by snatza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desiree
2007-01-19 16:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him an utimatum.. quit the drugs and get his grades up or ur gone.
2007-01-19 16:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him some help even if he thinks he doesn't need it or not...
2007-01-19 16:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by devilsadvocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋