I am thirteen and i really want a second piercing in my ears. My mom doesnt like piercings What should I do?

Question

Im not into the fad of having a millin piercings i just think it would look really pretty on me. My mom says i dont wear the earings that i have enough so i have been wearing them everyday for a year straight but she still wont change her mind. How can i convince or even sway her to consider allowing me to get a piercing. :(

Answer 1

ask her to help you make a pros/cons list and then have an
honest talk with her about it. let her know there are alot of
worse things that girls your age are getting involved with
and all you want is your ears pierced. tell her you want her
permission because you respect her and want to have
a good relationship with her.

Answer 2

I'm 23 and my mom didn't let me do anything until I was 18 and officially an adult. She had my ears pierced when I was 5 so that was her choice. I always wanted a second hole, but once she said no I kind of just gave up on the idea. At 18 I got 2 cartilage piercings, my belly button and 3 lobe holes in each ear. I still wear the three earrings in each ear , but have taken the rest out. I think its more of a rebellion thing and your friends get to do it and that makes you want to do it. Don't use the everyone else has it/ or their mom lets them do it argument because moms really don't care about that. I will say this though. I worked for a school district, police dept and ambulance company and they didn't care about the piercings at all. I was even allowed to have my nose pierced. Your ears are not seen that much by people you work with. Just give your mom time. If her mind is made up you won't be able to get them.

Answer 3

She is using the not wearing jewelry as an excuse. For some reason or another she is not comfortable with your getting another piercing. She is probably scared that this set of lobe piercings will turn into a helix, then your belly button, then every other part of your body. Plus, you are only 13. If you really want to wow her do some research on ear piercings. Healing, aftercare, proper jewelry, why piercing guns are bad, good peircing studios in your town, etc. Give her a reason to see how mature and knowledgeable you can be, then ask again. If she still says no then just wait til you are old enough to go yourself. Don't try to be slick and let your friend pierce your ears or anything like that. Home piercings are a great way to cause tissue damage, scarring, awful placement, infection, etc. Its also a great way to show your mom how much of a snotty brat you can be. Don't take that route. Just be mature about it and see where it takes you.

Check out these sites for help.
tribalectic.com
safepiercing.org

Answer 4

They have some really pretty earrings designed to hold onto the fold at the top of the ear. And if you put them on right, it takes a lift and a twist to get them off, so they are secure. Best of all, a lot of them come as cute little men or frogs and such.

You can buy a few pair of these and start wearing them now. When your Mom tries to take a fit about them, just show her that they aren't piercings. (And then maybe once she gets used to them, you can sneak in a piercing or two that she won't even notice!)

These ear cuffs are wonderful. Have a look at the whole collection...
http://www.lenusa.com/site/771724/page/267709

Answer 5

I really don't think you need any more piercings than the two you have in your ears. I am 23 now, and when I was younger I wanted extra piercings real bad. Now I am happy that I never got anything else pierced or got a tattoo because when you are out in the real world, working, you are respected the more conservative you look. But, hey it is just a piercing and it will close up. Explain that to her. Another thing I never realized when I was younger, that people used to tell me and I didn't believe: Your mother is usually right. When I was younger I would be rich for every time someone used to tell me, but it turned out to be true. Your mother is one of the only people in this world who will actually give you the gut honest opinion that others are afraid to say. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Sorry but if your Mom won't say it I will,
" I allow you one piercing no big deal (earrings are beautiful and mature) but now you want another piercing (here we go) when will it end (eyebrow, lip, navel, other unmentionables) or will it. How about a tattoo or other body altering things while we are at it."
Although all you want is another earring to look pretty ( noted and understood) your mother is standing her ground because she loves you, is protecting you from yourself and these are her rules.
Sucks, but like I told my daughter (sixteen), "when your eighteen pierce, tattoo, alter, add, delete anything you want but right now the ear piercing you have right now is all I want to see in this house and this is my rule ; defy and rules and consequences will apply."

Answer 7

I tried that when I was 13 and got nowhere with my mom. So long story short I tricked my dad into letting me do it when I was 16. My mom was wicked pi$$ed. To top it off my new holes got infected and years later I had to re-pierce. So just chill out and let it go for now. When you are 18 you can get it done.

Answer 8

this has nothing to do with tattoos or piercings. this should be in the espionage category, or maybe brainwashing. seriously, if you are under 18, give it up. whats the rush anyway? trust me! time slows down after about 24, so you will have plenty of time then to experiment with piercings and such. otherwise, when i was under 18 i took up some extra responsibility around the house and my parents rewarded me with letting me get my ears pierced. weird i know. but it works! if you are over 18. get a job. get a life. and move outta your ma's house.

Answer 9

my mom was the same way, but eventually she brought a piercing gun home from work [she works at a doctors office...and a long time ago they were the only people that could pierce ears] and pierced them for me. she ended up loving it. she changed her mind b/c she saw a couple of my friends who had their ears pierced twice and she thought it looked pretty. if you have any friends with double holes in their ears...try showing them to your mom.

Answer 10

Wear those clip-on earrings for now and get one when you are an adult, if you still want one then. That way you wont make your mom mad and you will still look how you want to. But personally, i find piercings on guys yucky and cheap looking. They remind me of druggies. And you already have one, so why need two?

Answer 11

You could ask her what type of earring she thinks its really pretty and say that you would try them, show her what you want to wear um...or you could just wait a few years then get it done. Sorry I don't have more to offer. I never really had that problem when it came to my ears.