My husband and I live with his mother. Well, his entire family hates and judges me. They even say things to hurt me. We are both disabled and can't afford to move right now. It's hard to be at peace with them when it is constantly in your face. Help?
2007-01-19 15:53:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot to add my husband has already made it plain that it is hurting him deeply to see them do this to me.
2007-01-19 16:02:30 · update #1
Wow!! I am sorry you are having to go thru all that B.S.!!
Contact my source below..they might be able to offer some advice to ya........
Bless your heart!!!
2007-01-19 16:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be very hard to be among such toxic people. This is something that has happened to me, and I know you are right that the people who tell you not to be bitter are not helpful.
The first thing you need to do is find some people who will care for you... it is hard to be caring when you are surrounded by hatefulness. You say that you can't afford to move out... but can you go someplace during the day, even to volunteer, where you would not be surrounded by these people all day, every day?
Some communities have places called "Centers for Independent Living" In our region, they help people with a wide range of disabilities to find ways to live life to the fullest, regardless of their disabilities. If you are able to use this Yahoo! Answers program, you have other internet access, check your area for this service.
Depending upon the source of your disability (Epilepsy, Arthritis, etc), there may be a center in your area that will help you find something to do so you can get out and away at least part of the time.
At least go to the mall or the library for part of the day a few days a week... get out and fold bulletins at a local church... play Bingo with people at the nearest nursing home... something to get some love in your life.
Once your heart has some lovin' amunition, you might be able to counter-act the hate-balls they are throwing your way.
2007-01-19 16:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you two to start saving up some money so you can get your own place.
You husband needs to talk to the whole family and stand up for you. If he is not doing those things, then he is not a man. You are his wife and he needs to defend you. It is obvious that they are not respecting him or you.
Since you are living with his mother, you just need to ignore her, but be polite. She is going to be who she is. You can't change that. Your husband needs to do what ever he can to get you guys out of there, no matter if it takes up saving money little by little. If this is affecting you, then this is affecting you and your marriage too.
Just pray that you two can find a place of your own and that the doors will be open for you two. Don't give up. (smile)
2007-01-19 17:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to release the emotions you are feeling.
The easiest and least-costly way to do this is with stretching.
I do not know what your physical limitations are now, so please bear with me if I am suggesting things you cannot do.
When ever I am stressed, which is every day, thanks to a killer job, I go into the kitchen and stretch.
I stand at the counter top, hands on the counter top and squat up and down, slowly, 10 times. Then I put my hands on the edge of the counter top, both feet back and together and do counter top pushups. 10 times. Then I put one foot forward, keeping the other foot back and firmly on the floor and do stretches of the calf of the leg set back. 10 times. Then I reverse feet and do the other leg.
After about 10 minutes of this I feel absolutely GREAT. This feeling last most of the day.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-19 15:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may seem like an odvious thing, but every time you get money set some aside, because that sounds like an emotionally upsetting place. I myself would not be able to stand it if someone, no matter who emotionally abused me. People don't have the right to do that.
Believe me, I know how hard it is to move out on your own, but if you put money aside, you are one step closer every time. If they are abusing you emotionally, I would also bring it to my husbands attention, and if possible, I would seek some kind of professional guidance as to what they think you should do.
2007-01-19 16:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by tieshantiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it as a good lesson on how not to treat people that have problems and are not able to support themselves. These people do not see you in that manner, and are taking their frustrations out on you, Try to move as soon as possible, if you and your husband are disabled then there are organizations for people with disabilities that might be willing to step in and help look in the phone book or phone community services, or welfare they can put you in touch with the help you need, be cause what is happening to both of you is called abuse and you need help
2007-01-19 16:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really need to space yourself away from the mother. Do as much of your own thing as much as the two of you can, eg, have dinner out, watch a movie in bed, even if the house is big enough det up your own living room that is just for the two of you.Best wishes
2007-01-19 15:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go move to a shelter.
you may find it isnt only the family that is the problem.
sometimes you have to do with what you got and think about why or how you got where you are now and make the best of it. then learn from this life experience and try not to repeat this again cuz you obviously dont like being in this situation.
2007-01-19 15:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 06:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who did best (mentally) in consentration camps were the ones who decided they were not going to let the way the Nazi guards treated them determine their attitude and rob them of their humanity. They remained kind and compassionate people. It's more often not your situation but your attitude that determines your outcome. Ask God for strength. Pray for the others. It'll be hard to hate them if you pray for them. Again, ask for God's help. Hope it goes better.
2007-01-19 16:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep milking the freebies from the family. If they are mean to you, the best thing you can do is be nice to them (if they truly hate you, this will get on their nerves even more) Just realize that they suck at being people, and laugh it off. I'm not saying to do this, but if I were you, I would steal from them as well. Good Luck
2007-01-19 15:58:28 · answer #11 · answered by Jopo Lugo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋