Well guys, I mentioned couple of months ago that I was dating this girl who broke up with her boyfriend a month prior to our dating. We dated for 2months. She told me that she was done with her ex, that was why I continued in my pursuit and thought she and I had something together. She later told me that she is going to try working it out again with her ex to see if things might work. I am completely distraught. I feel used. I dont know where to go from here. Guys what should I do? I hate this feeling. I wish it can go away, but it still stays.
2007-01-19 15:48:34 · 11 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do some meditation (always works for me) then find a new chic.
2007-01-19 15:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Roger J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic breakup situation, bro. Here's what you will find out when you pull the black box out of the smoking crater where your dreams crashed.
She's afraid of being alone. Things weren't working out with the other guy and she needed another guy (you) to be her crutch. She's a seething pile of insecurity deep down. You're better off. In fact, you need to send her ex a thank you card. He's jumping on a grenade for you.
Yup, you got used brother. Live and learn. Now go and find a chick who wants you, not just any guy who will help her forget for a little while that she's a fearful and miserable wreck inside.
Don't be distraught, be grateful. Go into the bathroom, look in the mirror, and point at your reflection. Say "you just dodged a bullet".
Repeat as necessary until you believe it.
2007-01-19 16:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen in life maybe she didn't have enough time to cope with what was going on... Maybe she wasn't completely over him... It takes time and pushing to get what you want isn't going to help matters any. You need to talk with her and see where she is coming from maybe she really loves her ex and maybe she loves you to but can't decide what way to go.... It's not that your being used its just women some of us have a hard time with moving on from one relationship to another. Talk to her. If she goes back to her ex then thats that it doesn't mean that you both can't be friends you can't plane the future but you can't wait around and sit on your thumb and feel that she is going to come back crawling to you because it didn't work out with her ex.... Stay strong and live a happy life you can't run from your problems either thats not the way to do it because when you come back all those problems will still be there.
I Hope This Helps Out A Little.....
2007-01-19 15:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by navy_seabee_wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy!! Move on to someone who isn't on the rebound. Would you rather be with this girl while she's still thinking about her ex. Cut it loose.... There's more than a few girls out there that are single available and not coming out of a relationship.....It's not that big a deal. Find a new hottie and get after it....
2007-01-19 15:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there are to many girls out there just waiting for a guy like you so get back out there and in no time at all the pain will go away,i promise
2007-01-19 16:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that you are going thought this, but as you know that
when you are dating someone that still have feeling for someone
that they just broke up with , will all way be bad for the other person involved,. but all you do is try to deal with what happen
and go on with your life, it will get better.
2007-01-19 15:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your going through a rough time now...
All I can say is that in time it willl heal... You may feel bad right know but you wil get better and move on...
Good Luck
2007-01-19 15:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by devilsadvocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but I am sorry to have to break the news to you, but it appears from just this tiny bit that you wrote that you were unfortunately the rebound guy.
2007-01-19 15:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by tieshantiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry..thats what it feels like to be the rebound person.... :-(
Now, get back up on that horse and ride baby!
2007-01-19 15:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being "used". Concentrate on that and just call it a life experience and go forward.
2007-01-19 15:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jolly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋