Okay. I met someone online about 2 and 1/2 years ago. Hes 17 and I'm a few years younger than him. Our relationship has been getting more serious, like he says "I love you" and I say it back. We even call eachother and have been on the phone for up to an hour and a half. Things have only really gotten serious within the last month but lately he seems distant. Like when I IM him he doesn't talk much which is weird since he usually talks a lot. And when I call him, he always seems busy. At first he was needy by saying "I love you" every 5 minutes and I admit, I wasn't crazy about that. I do love him but it seems like I'm 2005's news, long forgotten. Any advice?
2007-01-19 15:44:51 · 3 answers · asked by punkontheinside04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice is next time don't say I love you back. Guys actually don't know what they are doing either. Take care of yourself by not letting things get serious and by not letting any one guy dominate your dance card. Guys may not mean it but they will suck years out of you if you let it happen. Move on and have fun.
2007-01-19 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to rewind that clock. Think back to when it was new and fresh and you two were really connecting. If you have not had a physical connection yet ... then just try recapturing some of that atmosphere and it might reignite things. If however you have had that physical connection ...ouch! Shoulda waited but lessons learned..right? Well then this may be the jitters on his part ...and he is stepping back to get his perspective..if so give him the space ..regrettably it is his call and you would not want him if he does not want you and so ...let it go..if you really love him you want him happy and that may mean letting him go. That is the difference between selfish love and unselfish love.
Give him time ....do not call ...instead look around for another guy friend and explore a connection with him ..but don't get to heavy with the new guy till you know this relationship is over ..that would be leading the new guy on and it wouldn't be right to use him to make your BF jealose.
And then there is the chance we all take when we invest in a relationship ...the third person. Truth is he may have another lady.... the Internet is a quick way to met someone but it also allows for the temptation of continuing to met others while you are developing a relationship and that may lead to a guy or gal finding someone else. If so again ...your love needs to be mature enough to move on. Ever read Kahil Gibran's book "the Prophet"
. ..he was a wise man...read it. Love, is not something you are ever going to loose. Think positve. You sound like a great young lady!
2007-01-20 00:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to enter Fantasy Land online!
He may have realized that you are a little too close to jail bait, so to speak, before things get any farther down the pike!!
Honey, there are SO MANY fish in the sea, and some of them are really honorable men!!!
Let him go and grow into the fine young lady you are on your way to being--hang with young people your own age, and have fun being young!!!
Please Don't be in a big hurry to grow up...it happens so quickly, and once you are there...to 18 or 21...there is NO turning back, and believe me, you'd be amazed how many adults would tell you that they would love to trade places with you now!
Take it easy, Trigger! Have fun and Good Luck!
2007-01-19 23:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋