i dont know why ever since i got into highschool i changed alot, i put on more makeup when i go to school and i used to not care so much about my looks, and i didnt always put makeup on but now its like i cant go out without it and its like its so important to me to look good. and i just dont know, ever since i met a kind of slutty friend and i hang with her i start doing things like her, i flirt with guys talk dirty and act like a sl.ut at times. what is wrong with me?! cant i just be like that clean, nice, normal, girl i used to be then giving myself so easly and acting like am guys playtoy? i wasnt like this before, what is wrong with me? how do i truly be myself again?
2007-01-19 15:44:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AND I ALWAYS THINK OF HAVING SEX...
2007-01-19 15:51:27 · update #1
Hormones. You are growing up and want boys to notice you. Nothing wrong with that. Its okay to tease and maybe act like a little slutty, but just don't be one. You don't want to end up on the Maury show with him saying to some guy "You are NOT the father."
2007-01-19 15:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow girl you have an outstanding self awareness. Good for you!
So I take it that you are dissatisfied with some of the recent changes that you have allowed to take place with yourself.
You are bending to peer pressure. Your friend wears a lot of makeup, & behaves a certain way, so you have been adapting your behaviour to be like hers so you can fit in, & be accepted by her, & the others that she surrounds herself with.
If you want to change your behaviour, & your image then all you really need to do is make the concious decision to do so.
Obviously you are feeling an inner conflict with the current image you are portraying because it isn't your true self.
So go ahead, & dress & act the way that you know is consistant with who you really are.
You may face some criticism from those you are presently hanging with, but I predict that you will find that easier to live with then what you now are living with each time you take a true look at yourself in the mirror.
Your "kind of slutty friend" will have to learn to accept you as your true self, or she really isn't a good friend in the 1st place.
I think you are ready for a change. Being as aware of yourself as you are, & questioning what you are doing is the most important step in affecting the kind of change that you want. All you have to do now is decide what you want changed, & put it into practice.
Good Luck!
2007-01-20 00:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had plenty of friends go through this. It sounds like your searching for where you fit. We all go through this. There is nothing wrong with it as long as you don't loose who you really are. If you let others dictate who you are you might not like who you become. Mimicing people is ok to an extent. Make sure that while your "trying on new hats" you don't burn too many bridges. I know this sounds corny as hell, but if you have on older sister talk to her or even (and I know this may sound worse) try talking to your mom. It wasn't until I got older that I realized my mother was probably the loyal friend I would ever have.
2007-01-19 23:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bleaux 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if there is anything good to come out of this all we should all probably see you on the internet in about a month, with the guy that told you he "loved" you. And besides that...Sluts are cool. You can't be a nice clean girl cause being a slut is probably in your blood. Is your mom a slut? Can I meet your mom
2007-01-19 23:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by steve_o79 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know this may sound insane to you now..but enjoy how you are feeling!! cuz this is the most fun-drama there is in life. you are coming of age.. fitting into your skin.. you are changing and growing. I went thru the exact same thing. I found out who i was at age 25. Just have fun with this.. explore yourself.. try new things.. have fun with it. it may feel wrong to wear makeup and care about guys..but thats NORMAL. dont stress about it so much tho, or you can get really depressed. just turn it into a positive thing. this gurl..your friend.. might be a bad influence. dont do things JUSt bc she is. learn to say no.. and say no for your own moral issues and for your self respect. you deserve to be happy. dont do things just cuz your friends do. =)
2007-01-19 23:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by lil_sazzi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
... I would change every thing slowly... you cant wake up and be a new person you have to turn leaves slowly.... buy a new out fit.. one not so revealing somethiing subtle... or take off a part of your make up to reveal a new side.... putyour hair up in a new way.... meet some new friends who arent liek the ones you have now.... after awhile if you try you find your self ina whole new seeming of your self...
~Quin.
2007-01-19 23:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Quin 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. Your just growing up, coming of age.
2007-01-19 23:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Blah..... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would stop hanging out with that girl!
2007-01-19 23:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by yogo_5 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably because your getting older because when you get older you seem to care for some reason.
2007-01-19 23:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by DarkDejection(JF) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You became a woman.
2007-01-19 23:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋