I got dumped two weeks ago. She finally called me yesterday....We talked for more than an hour (very positive, did not beg, or cry, but tried to show her I care and I want her back). The break up was my fault. She texted me after our conversation saying it was good to talk to me and that she wanted to meet me for coffee the next day (today). I said cool and let me know when she wants to meet up. Never called me, I called her and she said she had been very busy and she had to work rest of the night. My question is this: Is she playing games? Is she interested in getting back together? Is she just playing hard to get cause she just doesn't trust me yet? Is it just going to take some time? Was she really busy? I care for her a lot and I want to do this right. Any opinions?
2007-01-19 15:13:00 · 7 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on what you did to get dumped! If you cheated on her.....well, she may be taking her good old time trying to determine if you will do it again. If you have done something really bad, send her some flowers and show her how sorry you are! Be really sincere( women can see a phony a mile away). If she has been cheated on it may be that she is feeling burned and it really may take you a while if at all to get back in her good graces. I would never give a cheater a second chance, however, some women will. Let me let you in on something, have you ever heard the old saying that "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?" It is really true. I would be cautious if I were you because she may or may not be playing games with you to get revenge. I know plenty of girls who do. But if you care for this girl, I would still try and get her to see you are really sorry and will not do this again. You have nothing to lose! Best wishes and be trust worthy this time!
2007-01-19 15:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people "make plans" in order to leave things on a good note. It's kinda an out for them, but it almost makes them feel like they aren't the bad guy. Unfortunately, they have no intent of keeping the plans. I would just chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. She'll call you if she really wants to pick up the relationship again. Hopefully by then you'll have found someone new. Don't wait by the phone.
2007-01-20 00:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's of two minds and is conflicted. It's an injustice to insist a person be fully consistent at any given time, and between all moments. I would wait for her to call you again.
2007-01-19 23:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said maybe she doesn't trust you. Do you trust her? If you do then beleive her when she says she is busy. A relatioship shouldn't be about guessing games.
You and she both should say what you mean. If you're not going to be true to each other then let it go.
2007-01-19 23:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by aQTinMVny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find someone that want you all the time not when they are bored. I bet when she sees you with another girl on your arm she will be calling.. but see you may get the confidence you need to tell her to bug off!
2007-01-19 23:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like she was making sure that she still has a back up plan. she might be interested in getting back together with you but i'm sure she's gonna make you work for it.
2007-01-19 23:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told her how you felt then let her come to you! But I wouldn't be hanging around the phone all day either!
2007-01-19 23:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋