Okay...I took your advice and told him how much his talking about his ex-girlfriend hurt me and that I think that he needs to focus on a future with me. And he said that I was making him choose between him and his friend. I told him I was. Is it so unreasonable for me to want him to pick?
2007-01-19 15:03:58 · 25 answers · asked by L.A.H. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no need to make him pick. As long as he understands that you are now his girlfriend and that his ex no longer has that relationship with him you should be OK. Although I understand how you must be feeling and how insecure he must be making you feel. Explain to him that you accept that he is still friends with his ex but that you are not her friend and that you would prefer that he limit how much he talks about her to you. The minute you try and make a lad chose between you and anything else they start to panic and think that they are going to lose something so don't make him pick as it more often than not ends up being the person making the demands that loses out. Guys don't like girls that pile on the pressure. Talk and explain how you feel without demanding and leave him with something to think about. Might just work in your favour.
2007-01-19 15:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by mind bender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the choice has bee made. It has been made by you and for you. It took conviction, strength, integrity and the ability to bear the heartbreak. He is very confused, cannot commit to a life with you, thus allowing you to move on and create a life for yourself hopefully finding a man who wants to devote his life to you in total without past relationships cluttered up like baggage.
In as much as you gave him an ultimatum (that he did not like), the choice has been made.
2007-01-19 15:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even have to ask that question, then it's already over. Or should I say that it never started?
All the same, I would say yes. Don't attack or insult him, but do tell him how his constantly mentioning his ex disturbs you. Ask him if he's prepared to concentrate on the future with you rather than dwelling on the past with her. If he hesitates, you have your answer.
2007-01-19 15:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he talks about is his ex-girl, than your probably a fool to stay with him. There are million other fine men in the world, and your going to limit yourself to this one carrying on about his Ex? You have to look out for your happiness.
2007-01-19 15:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Craig T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well swettie i think it is time for you to dumb this dude because obvisouly he aint thinkin about you. He is thinkin about that ex-girlfriend of his and he is useing you to get back at her. You need to leave him because by him saying you making me choose between you and my friend? there is no question about it he is suppose to choose you if he liked you so much! So do yourself a favor and leave him cuz before he hurt you, you need too hurt him!
Just lookin out sista
2007-01-19 15:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nirra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nah- you deserve a guy who is not gonna be talking about his ex and living in the past. tell him that if he has issues to take out with her to please leave them out of the date he is on with you but if he is still friends with her approach it with caution unless you don't care if ya'll stay together- tell him it's really insulting when he talks about another woman on the date and ask him how he'd feel if you talked about an ex on the dates and say thats how you feel. dump him if you have to but you deserve a man who'll talk about you and not some other chick
2007-01-19 15:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's not a pick thing dear. Not at all.
You simply say in terms he can understand, "this is something I cannot take and still be in a relationship with you." He will either adjust his conduct accordingly or he won't.
2007-01-19 15:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys I know don't usually talk to their exes that much, I assum he talks about her a lot to the point of annoying you.
2007-01-19 15:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not when the friend is an ex girl friend
2007-01-19 15:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋