why is it so hard to find a decent man who is not a dog, a pig and a donkey?

Question

The more I date the more I find out that guys don’t want to have anything to do with me unless I have to offer something..it is either sex..or some kind of favours..so I always end up leaving them.. And I am not proud to say every guy I ever been with I was the one who ended the relationship and when my current bf found out that I have done this he is scared of committing to me because he said he doesn’t want to be with someone who

I don’t mean to show off but I am beautiful..I have a nice figure, beautiful long hair, good looking face, I have my own business, I have my own place..I am confidant out going, kind and a nice person

but every guy I go on a date with end up being the opposite of what I thought they were..I have dated more than 40 guys I am 22 years old and still a virgin..but they all disappeared because one said he wants sex..they other said lets get married after a week of getting to know each other..the other lied about being single..

and my most recent one all of a sudden he wants to do every classic thing you have heard about abusive relationships( controlling, telling me to ask my mom not to come over, asking me not to have friends..and asking me to close my business so I can be home and not spending too much time at work with the guys..I mean the list goes on)


why is it so hard to find a decent man who has more morals than a dog, a pig and a donkey?

I just want a decent man as a boyfriend who has more morals than a dog, a pig and a donkey I am not worried about future

Answer 1

I think All guys are pigs

Answer 2

A Good man is rare to find. Why do you get into a relationship before you even assess their qualities? The problem with women today is they don't discriminate. They just pick a guy and think that some how they will mold him into their own idea. It doesn't work that way. You have to make a list of the qualities and choose someone with those qualities. If they don't have them then what is the point of a relationship. 99 percent of men want sex so better be careful. This world is just a big illusion anyways Try chanting the Maha Mantra it will help you get in touch with your inner true self and you can be satisfied with that until Mr. right comes along. (it could be a while they are rare) but don't settle for less. go to harekrishnatemple.c for details. Read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. It will give you all the answers in life. IT worked for me and I found a great man who loves to chant tool (Married 7 years)

Answer 3

It's difficult because you're one of the few people who respect themselves enough to remain loyal to their morals. You're a 22 year old virgin, which is extremely rare. Most guys near your age will not be virgins, mainly because most girls around your age lost their virginity to those guys in high school. Once we've started having sex, we assume that every relationship must contain it. It becomes extremely difficult to transition from a sexual relationship to another relationship where you do everything the same but without the sex. Sex for most men and some women is such a raw and primal urge. We flock to people whom we are sexually attracted to, and we'd prefer to act on these urges as soon as possible. As we spend more time together, the urges grow stronger as we begin to enjoy more parts of the other person's personality. Not being able to satisfy these urges can be frustrating, and often lead to doing mean things.

As far as why you choose guys that turn out to suck, it's tough to tell. You described yourself as attractive, which means you probably look for guys around your age who are also attractive. As I mentioned above, guys your age have probably had sex and are looking for more of it. If I begin to date you, or even get a hint that you're interested in me, I automatically assume that we'll be having sex soon. As soon as I find out that I won't be having sex with you, I become upset or less interested. Unfortunately, most guys are *****!

My best advice is to find someone through mutual friends. Make sure that the friend who's hooking you up is already in a happy relationship. Becasue if you have a girlfriend set you up, there's a reason that she's not dating the guy already. If you have a guy friend who's single set you up, he'll be pissed because your guy friends already want to have sex with you. There's no way that he's going to help one of his friends get close to you when that's where he really wants to be.

Chris Rock(the comedian) once spoke about how single guys never choose to hang out with girls that they find unattractive. Your guy friends would love to be in a relationship with you, so that may be another avenue for you to check out when looking for future loves. Be prepared to lose a friendship over this if it doesn't work out.

One last piece of advice, STOP LOOKING. You'll rarely find what your looking for, but once you give up and stop looking, the pressure is off. You're able to see more clearly, and eventually something special will happen. Good luck and have patience, you are clearly a level headed, educated and well spoken(written) woman. It will happen!

Answer 4

Wow, um...just take your time. You're only 22, he will come. Maybe its because you talk to them about this things way to soon. We like to take the whole "future" thing slow and easy. If all he wants is sex, then let him go. I really don't understand how, with having all that you say you have, you still haven't found a descent men. A business at 22, come on guys! What are you doing?

Answer 5

Duh, because most guys are a s sholes. The way they go around ******* up nice girls like you and making them feel shitty about themselves. It's hard to find a nice guy because so many guys know that if they act like a s s holes the girl will probably put out. I applaud you for standing up to that b.s. Too many women just resign themselves to the jerks. You just have to be patient. You're only 22. I'm the same age and I'm pretty sure I'll get there someday. You'll find the right person someday.

Answer 6

from your track record all you've been with is dog's pig's and donkey's so get off the fukkin farm and go to where the real men hang out, trust me, it's not in the shitter hun...

and if you're not trying to brag then who the hell cares if you're beautiful, have long hair, yadda yadda.......nice try....take your gorgeous *** and try doing something that doesn't involve how you look or how much money you make, go volunteer for the elderly or sick or homeless, you'll be bound to meet an honest, genuine man that way rather than sittin at home on your leather couch at your laptop whining about it

Answer 7

You've dated 40 guys by age 22, yet you give the impression you've given them enough time to show their true colours? Hmmm, I think 40% of the problem may lie with you.

That said, I'll date you. I outrank dogs, pigs and donkeys!

Answer 8

The dogs, pigs and donkeys seem to be attracted to the other beast the ***** oops its edited b i t c h or you may be acting like a B I T C H that other non evil man animal try being a lesbian

Answer 9

Hello sugary yummy,

The reason that you can't hang onto a man is because you think that you are stone cold fox, but at the same time you don't put out. Guys get tired of your c0ck teasing real fast.

I've known girls like that before. You are too choosey, plus you think that you're too good for any of them. Forget about guys, get yourself a couple cats and enjoy your life.

--Rick

Answer 10

if you think the men you were with are like swine...then maybe you are trying too hard or having such high expectations. it sounds like your saying they are out of your league because they turn out to be the opposite of what you wanted. get to know the guy before committing to a relationship and know their personality...i mean having dated 40 is like meeting them and just all of a sudden your hormones tell you to be with them...no stability and nothing long term...someone is bound to irritate you or do something...you have to realize this...relationships you have to work on it...its not like they are handcrafted to fit your needs. once you find someone who you can accept and love to see beyond their imperfections, you will know he is the right one...