went to my nepews wedding ,when I got their I found my xhusband and his lady freind ,sitting at the table next to me and my freind. My question is why did my nepew have him their,I was totaly upset. My family never liked my x when we were married and now to have this I was devistated. I have distanced myself.
2007-01-19 14:46:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
May be you nephew got along with him.
I think it was very tacky of them to seat you right by him though.
2007-01-19 14:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is divorced from my uncle. And even though they are no longer married, he still has a very active life in my cousins live and still love my uncle very much. I had a wonderful relationship with my uncle and that doesn't change just because he and my aunt are no longer married. There are going to be many times were you will be in the same space as your ex if you have children. My uncle is still invited to family reunions and special events because he is and always will be my uncle. While I agree that your nephew had a right to invite his uncle to his wedding, he should not have seated him near you. He also could have let you know that he was also invited, but he wasn't required to.
And you shouldn't be devistated, nor distance yourself. You need to live your life to the fullest!
2007-01-19 22:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are feeling is completely normal. However, this was HIS wedding and it had nothing to do with you. I bet his uncle and him were close which means he wanted him to share the moment with him just as he wanted you there also. I think he should have let you know that your ex-husband was going to be there and he shouldn't have put you both at the same table but he did so you should just let it go. Weddings are not for family feuds. Weddings are not to target someone in particular. Weddings are to celebrate and sometimes you have to do so with people you do not particularly like just for the bride or groom.
2007-01-19 22:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it must have been terribel for you. But you also have to see his side. How long did your nephew know your ex as his uncle? Do they still have a close bond? But your nephew also should have been an adult and warned you or even told his ex uncle not to bring a "friend" to this. Don't worry at least that day is over.
2007-01-20 02:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are a terrible speller, I can understand why you are upset about being seated next to your x. That was a totally inappropriate thing for your nephew to do (or whoever organised the seating).
2007-01-20 01:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't distance yourself...It was probably just an oversite on their part. Or they just wanted some extra gifts. Who knows. The main thing is that you survived the situation and became a better person from the experience, assuming you didn't curse him out or something. Just forgive and move on. There are more important things in life.
2007-01-19 22:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by DebEgirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
who knows why he had him there and why should you care unless you still have feelings for your ex, why act childish and distance yourself all b/c of what your nephew did...your just giving your ex power b/c he is getting a reaction out of you.... i mean were you mad b/c he was there?? or were you mad b/c he had a lady friend with him..it's not like your still with this man so why would you let him have so much power over the way you feel, life is too short he's an ex and ex=past so shake it off and move on
2007-01-19 23:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by tanya m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your nephew had your ex there because it was your NEPEWS wedding and he was free to invite ANYONE he chose to invite whether YOU liked it or not. I doubt very much that YOU paid for the wedding...You have no right to be "devistated" It wasn't YOUR day, it was your Nephew's and his Bride's day.
Hopefully you don't have any children who will someday get married and want to invite their father to the wedding...
2007-01-19 22:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Was he invited or did he crash the party and everyone was to nice to bounce him out?
If invited ask nephew why?
If crashed then forget it!
2007-01-19 22:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Inconsiderate manipulative f@cks you have in your family. This wasn't your nephew that did this. It was your brother or sister. Cut 'em out of your life. You do not need to have a bunch of drama queens around you looking for excitement. F@ck em.
2007-01-19 22:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋