My whole life i've been raised to look for certain characteristics in guys...now I am friends with this really awsome guy who happens to be everything i'm not supposed to like. I'm a christian he's and athiest, he drinks, has tatoo's and peircings. I know i should just walk away but I can't. He's been through alot and so have I so i guess that brings us together.He's the only guy that i can talk freely to and he's always been there when i needed someone to lean on.
My question is, Should I walk or should i stay?
2007-01-19 14:38:27 · 11 answers · asked by emschick914 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a Christian, you have to ask yourself what's more important: your relationship with him, or your relationship with God.
Nine times out of ten, it's the relationship with God that suffers in a relationship like that. And chances are that you'll alienate your family in the process.
I understand that you like him, and your reasons for doing so. However, it sounds more like you pity him more than you like him. He may be a good person, but is he willing to change his atheistic views? If not, then you probably need to sever any romantic portion of this relationship.
I'm sure it's not what you want to hear. But it is the truth. And I'm as much of a fan of a happy ending as the next person. But being a Christian, are you willing to risk salvation for someone who may or may not come to God?
If you're still insistent on a relationship with him, though, then I suggest this: get him to come to church with you. Explain your views and beliefs to him in no uncertain terms (whether or not you're able to answer any difficult questions he might ask). If he can accept and abide by them, then there might be a chance. But, if he tries to get you to walk away from the path you're on, then he isn't right for you.
Just do what you believe in your heart to be right. You'll be okay.
2007-01-19 14:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never ever go for a guy who might bring me down spirtually. If your a christian that you wouldent want any thing to come inbetween you and your eternal salvation.
My husband and I are the same religion and that gives our relationship a lot more platform, expecially having kids.
But you know, When I was young I claimed not to believe in god and swore that my husband, when we first met, could not ever get me to go to chruch. Hes probabley the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.
2007-01-19 22:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is for you only to decide. I think before you date someone think of the troubles he might get in. If you love him then maybe you can help him get on the right track. but again he has been through a lot and so have you.. you seem like a match made in heaven. Listen to those silent whispers that you are trying so hard to ignore.
2007-01-19 22:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice to you having been in just this situation almost, is to walk away now...you can remain just friends with him but can you???
your belief system is way different, that's not going to change and you'll never change him......ppl take time to become different ppl, so all your efforts are going to go unrewarded and you'll only be left feeling used and abused, especially if you're thinking about rebelling against your christian beliefs....? please don't , stay true to how you were raised, your parents wanted the best for you and you're on the right path....don't stray for what looks appealing, in the end it's not...
2007-01-19 22:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're into this guy because you're young, and out to "fix" him. Sorry to come across so harsh, but this situation is nothing new and all too common.
No matter what replies you get, you're going to stay with until he really breaks your heart. Then 10 years from now, when you look back, you'll woder...>WHY?<
Good luck.
2007-01-19 22:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of my friends ALWAYS fall for this type of guy. I offer a different perspective fo the friend who watches all of his friends get hurt then go for the same guy again. If you must, go out with this guy but dont get oo attatched. If it works out wonderful, if it doesn't atleast youy werent that attatched.
2007-01-19 22:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Erick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darling, it sounds like you've caught yourself a catch!
I say hold onto him!
Don't let go just because his "stereotype" is something you were taught to judge negatively
It sounds to me like he is a respectable person
As long as he is good to you and you really like him, go for itt!!
Good luck :]
2007-01-19 22:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as his habits aren't a problem for you and you are willing to accept his differences, I say go for it!
2007-01-19 22:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him. Do what your heart says is right.
2007-01-19 22:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you to do. if its wrong...you'll figure that out later on. but you dont give it a shot you'll never know.
2007-01-19 22:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋