I will be 37 weeks pregnant this Sunday and I'm a little nervous about my lil man not getting all the attention he did before. I am afraid he will get very jelous of his baby brother and either act out or think he's not important anymore.....Any ideas please????
If you are only going to be rude about how far apart my children are...please do not answer!!!
2007-01-19 14:30:19 · 22 answers · asked by jule9104 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It may be a difficult transition for him. But...it shouldn't last for more than a few months. Humans are very adaptable creatures. At first it will be a lot of work, physically and emotionally for you. But...there are many benefits to having your children so close. Try incorporating him in your activities. ask him to help you with his new baby brother. Make sure to thank him when he "helps" and explain how important he is, and how much his baby brother needs him. Eventually, they will entertain each other. Good luck!
2007-01-19 14:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys were 18 months apart. It is really a trip! Go from one bottom to the other putting on fresh diapers. Luckily, the 2 yr old won't really be that jealous as would a 4 yr old. There will be times he will be impatient but a newborn does sleep a lot (hopefully) My best weapon - a playpen. It was a safety measure to put the little one in so the older couldn't get to him while I ran to the bathroom, etc.The older one did seem to want to sit on the baby. I got a tandem stroller and actually went out a lot during the day which made it easier for me. Keeps the older one interested and the little one at peace just strolling around. Make big brother important by getting diapers, powder, whatever. Enjoy and try to relax. My boys are now 24 & 23. It was harder when I had their sister 4 years later. I was out of practice, lol.
2007-01-19 22:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the lil guy is gona have to adjust, it probably will not be the easiest thing in the world, but there are lots of sibling that close to gether or closer. I would reccomend accepting all the extra help that is offered, and take the opportunity to spend time with the boy. Also, try getting him a baby doll, and talk about having a baby and how to treat a baby, so when mom all of a sudden shows up with a baby, it will not be a complete shock.
2007-01-19 23:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by "how far apart" your children are! Two years is nothing! In fact, that's probably the most normal spacing of children. My two girls are nine years apart.
You're just going to have to make a conscience effort to make sure that your little boy is a part of his new brother's life. Let him help you when you bathe him or change his diapers. Your little guy can get you the towel or diaper. Don't stop him from holding his brother. Allow them to bond and get to know each other. Always remember that your first-born is still a baby himself and needs your undivided attention too! Good Luck!
2007-01-19 22:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 13 months apart. My daughter is now 19 months and my son is 6 months. My daughter was jelous at first, thats a very natural and acceptable response to a new baby but now, she hugs him, kisses him and plays with him all the time. They will grow up to be the best of friends and understand eachother on a level that no one else could. I wouldn't worry, once your son has his time to be jelous, everything will be fine. You'll just have to br prepared to give lots of extra hugs and kisses. Also, it might sound silly, but for the last few weeks of my pregnancy, i carried around a doll... my daughter liked the doll and would cuddle up with it... just like she cuddles up with her baby brother now. Good Luck, I Hope Everything Works Out for the Best.....
Have a safe delivery and all the best for a happy and healthy newborn...congratulations
2007-01-19 22:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what, 2 years apart? That's not bad. My boyfriend and his brother are 11 months apart. Apparently it took their mom a while before she realized where babies came from. But anyway about your little man feeling left out just make sure you schedule some time for just the two of you to spend together. It doesn't have to be much time but try to make it something that only the two of you do together. That's all it takes really.
2007-01-19 22:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a 19 month old baby and a 10 week old baby. Before bringing the new baby home we explained to the big girl that SHE was getting a new baby. So now we always refer to the new baby as HER baby. We ask her to help with the new baby. To make her feel important, like she is a part of the baby. We used to ask her to give the baby kisses, however her kisses turned into bites so be careful. Good luck. God bless.
2007-01-19 22:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by carla m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first and second are 22 months apart. When I found out I was pregnant when my daughter was 15 months old I cried my eyes out! I thought she would feel so neglected. She was just the opposite! She was so happy to be a big sister! Always make them feel extra involved. Tell them they are going to be your special helpers with the new baby and make them feel like you have specail duties for them. Children love to help and feel needed. Also make special time and projects for your son while the other one is sleeping. If you notice a jealousy thing it is natural but will eventaully go away with your extra attention and effort. Good luck.
2007-01-19 22:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kim Di 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I surely wont be rude about your kids being 2 years apart heck mine are 13 yrs 1 month and 15 days apart! I also have a step daughter who turned 6 right after our son was born. As much as you can try to involve your 2 yr old with the baby like letting him pick out outfits, getting the baby his socks or a diaper if he is able to. And please let him know it is OK to touch the baby as long as he is nice about it. And when the baby is sleeping do activities with your 2 yr old as much as you can. He'll be just fine wait and see.
2007-01-19 22:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I babysat a 3 year old and a 1 year old and the older child was very mean and jealous toward her brother....but I also noticed both the parents worked a lot and would only bother to spend time if the baby was crying, etc. The girl also made comments like "my mom says I'm mean to my brother, my mom says I'm stupid" etc. I think it's very important to pay attention to BOTH children but most importantly, SEPARATELY...if you always do things as a family it's kinda like 'well we have to do this anyways so they dont want to be with me'...also, praise your older child for what she/he does well like in school, coloring, hang up what they do (crafts, awards) etc, say how much you love them at night, and also they can help you take care of your newborn like saying "you are such a good brother/sister" or asking them to help rock the baby, prepare meals, etc so they are always involved
2007-01-19 22:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋