Serious question. Why do some Christians try their best to live for God, but always have a person(s)?

Question

who they can't seem to forgive? Now be honest. We are all struggling with this.

Answer 1

Forgiveness is a deeply held part of my value system. I try to deal with my anger before going to bed, at the longest. A couple of years ago, I was asked if I had anyone I hadn't forgiven, and I said "not that I know of". However God showed me that I had given just token forgiveness to somebody who had harmed me six years earlier, and that I still had a lot of anger inside. After a couple of sleepless nights, I dealt with that, with His help. As a result, a lot of other problems I was having began to go away.
Generally, though, I feel I can honestly say that I don't have a problem forgiving. That particular situation had hit a blind spot.
EDIT:
I think it's great that you are aware of it. It's that unaware unforgiveness, that bitterness that is buried deep down and denied that really harms us, as I found out to my cost.
When we have bitterness, anger, or hatred toward someone, the best thing is to tell God exactly how we feel. Don't worry, you can't scandalize Him. The psalmist would say: "I wish you would destroy him, and his family, I wish everything went wrong for him" - and describes in very vivid language how he feels about the person and what he deserves. The Word of God is not justifying the psalmis'ts feelings, but is encouraging us to take those feelings to God the way the psalmist did. Because that way God can help us deal with them.

Answer 2

I know that I have had trouble forgiving people from time to time, especially being in ministry. People christian or not christian, will let you down, it is hard sometimes to forgive again and again opening your heart to people, knowing that I may get hurt . What helps me is to remember that Jesus lived a life of suffering, pain and rejection, yet He still learned to love even deeper. Being a Christian is not easy, but is defiantly worth it all. I am doing a new thing where I am trying to see the best in everyone and everything, just like I did as a child, and maybe when I slip up here and there someone will see the best in me. If the Lord chose me as His beloved, than I know I need to increase is His Love, because I defiantly don't deserve His forgiveness:)

Answer 3

Being unable to forgive and not wanting to forgive (ie not worrying about it) are two different things. So merely being unable to forgive may be similar to being unable to get over a phobia.

But to many Christians, their faith is something that gives to them, rather than something they give themselves to.

Consider some televangelists, who talk about God and Jesus like they are leaders to a winning side, powerful and authoritarian. It's hard to believe that they profess the same religion as Martin Luther King and Mother Theresa.

And when you view a relationship with God that way, you don't have to forgive.

Answer 4

I know what you mean. I am finding that I am not sure what forgiveness really means. When it is something like forgetting to give you a message, or a child that is a new driver that wrecks the car.....it is easy to understand; but when it is something huge- like a life changing bad event that happens- it is a different type of forgiveness that is required. That is the type that requires a God-like ability. Just ask Him, and you will be directed what to do. Believe me, it is not easy- but you will have peace about it.

Answer 5

It's funny because for myself, I fall way beyond my own standards of what a Christian should be, and I know I come nowhere close to the way GOD wants me to be. As things stand right now I consider myself a Christian going to hell. There are just some things that we as mere human beings will not be able to correct. We can only try our hardest.

Answer 6

We are all human. Being Christian does not mean we are perfect. We still struggle with sin. However through Christ Jesus we can appear to be sinless to God Almighty.
Praise the Holy Lamb of God !!
God Bless You....Peace.

Answer 7

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to learn, that is for some of us. My youngest daughter, now 20, however, learned this lesson very early on in her spiritual life. I think that the problem comes down to forgiving ourselves. I find it more difficult to forgive myself for my shortcomings that to forgive others - and when someone evidences shortcomings similar to my own, it is more difficult to forgive. However, once mastered, forgiveness is very freeing - try it, you'll like it!

Answer 8

Well it's human nature to hold grudges, and without the word of God spoken to them everyday it's hard to remember the messages he sends out and to release the hate that is in their heart. It's hard being a Christian in today's soceity because there are so many contradicting ideas out there.

Answer 9

I don't have anyone that I have yet to forgive for anything in my life. I only hope that there's not someone in my life that I've overlooked that I need to ask forgiveness from, who I may have hurt.

Answer 10

it is not that i dont forgive. i admit sometimes i hold a grudge or have trouble at first. like when my mom commited suicide. it took me for ever to get over it. also did not help that i had her first grandaughter 3 weeks later that she now will never see and that i was activated to Iraq. however i still admit it took me longer to get over that. but now i have forgiven her. but most of us as i was saying is not that we dont forgive we just dont tolerate the sin they are doing. i love everyone just not what they do. just as well as if someone continues to hurt you or me i forgive them i just learn to distant myself. sometimes it puts on the apperance that we are holding a grudge when sometimes we are not. and sometimes we are. but that is not for me to decide. for i worry about myself and what my actions are. i try to help out but in the end it is up to them and God. not me. it is up to me and God for myself. that is also why i live without a tv and other things. not that they are a sin however some shows i dont need to watch that i know i would. but that is my choice and something God burdend in my heart. anyways.