My sister-in-law and I get along OK most of the time. I like her, but she tends to go out of her way not to upset her relatives. With her mom, her brother (my husband), and me she's a lot more casual… My husband and I were spending the night the other day at her place on a visit and we'd explained that I was not to be interrupted while breastfeeding my baby because it's important for the baby's feeding. She took care not to interrupt me at all until her cousin called (she lives in another city) and asked to say hi to me. My sister-in-law came right up to me while I was breastfeeding and handed me the phone. When I mouthed, "I'm breastfeeding", she gestured sort of apologetically that "you know… I can't tell her you can't talk to her now".
I talked to her cousin making a point of whispering, not talking, and she offered to hang up once she knew I was feeding the baby. Now I'm very mad over this and I'm not sure if I should bring it up later or not. We're staying over again in 12 days.
2007-01-19 14:21:03 · 16 answers · asked by coffeecustard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Guys, u misunderstood. I never said absolute silence, I said I was to be left alone. As in nobody talk to me. It would be insane to ask for absolute silence in the whole house. As for why, it's a lot healthier: babies are at their most alert while feeding so they are easily distracted and can stop feeding and just nibble while taking in all that's happening around them. This is according to my pediatrician, BabyCenter.com, and many experienced moms. Thanks again everybody.
2007-01-19 14:32:49 · update #1
Oh, and Someone'sMom? I WAS in another room. :)
2007-01-19 14:37:51 · update #2
scratching my head on this one.
2007-01-19 14:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sound will not effect your child breastfeeding. It sounds like you're using the breastfeeding as an excuse to have exclusive time with the child.
You need to learn to let go. The child is meant to grow and leave the parent. You have to let the child become aware of its surroundings and experience many different things. You don't have children to "smother" them and create insecurities...you have them to teach them to carry on the values and mores of your society.
I can understand that you may want a bit of privacy, especially if you are a modest person but you can feed the child without exposing yourself to everyone.
2007-01-19 14:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip. If absolute silence is required for you to feed the baby, go to another room and lock the door. If you are going to feed the baby when there are people around, chances are good they might talk to you. You know what your sister-in-law is like, either deal with her the way she is or don't stay with her.
2007-01-19 14:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your CHOICE OF ABSOLUTE "SILENCE" is your choice it is not a necessity. I nursed both my boys right out out and proud in the mall in a car at anothers home the school- wherever. The kid was hungry that's all he (they) cared about and all the psycho "bonding in silence crap". get over it- you were at someone Else's home- she (sil) was nice to keep to her self. But when an outsider called (obvs. they couldn't come to visit and call was the next best) I think you are rude to be angered at the sis in law- she did keep her self/family quiet- you cannot expect to her to play your personal la leache secretary. you can nurse and talk on the phone and believe you me your kid will not be psychologically challenged-if you keep setting the "all about me and only me example" like your acting now- then maybe he/she will be. good luck and get over if stay home 24/7 to avoid this if you must have it your way burger king.
2007-01-19 14:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by KATHEYCARCRASHER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't think what she did was really that bad. Annoying, but not awful by any means.
She's getting on your nerves right now, and as a new mom, you need to relax, so I'd advise you to keep your mouth shut for now (your hormones are still raging), and definitely not stay with her again in 12 days.
Take a break from her. You don't have to tell her why. Tell her you need "family time." Or tell her you aren't feeling well, whatever. Don't insult her, cause I think you'll regret it.
2007-01-19 14:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a infant being fed is stressful to you? possibly we ought to continuously positioned your sister-in-regulation in a cage till she is finished with this entire 'feeding' the child concern. I propose who cares if she's doing suitable by using her newborn... as long as you're actually not aggravated!
2016-12-12 15:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you oughta relax and let it go...in the scheme of things it's not that important...the baby was fed, you answered the phone...it's not like you were giving someone CPR , stopped and took a cell call from your husband...give it a rest...
2007-01-19 14:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now. I also breastfeed my children, and I can understand the bonding that is involved, but you need to ease up some. In life we need to pick and chose our battles. This is one that does not need to be brought up again. She could see that she was not approved by you in giving her the phone and probably won't again. Ease up some.
2007-01-19 14:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by FANNY 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you severely over reacted. It's just feeding, the kid doesn't care if there is noise. Deal.
2007-01-19 14:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by kherome 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. Everyone makes mistakes. Some people dont understand about breastfeeding. When you visit again try talking to her before you nurse again.
2007-01-19 14:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are being too harsh on your sis-in-law, c'mon is it really that difficult to say hello to someone while your baby is eating? It's not like they are disrupting and the baby won't get fed...
2007-01-19 15:01:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋