I have no freedom. I have to go to bed at 8:00 on school nights and 9:00 on the weekends. I am not allowed to stay home alone either. I want to be allowed to wear whatever clothes I want and do whatever I want, but if I even tried to walk out of the house in black clothes they would ground me. by the way i am 13 in May
2007-01-19 14:06:33 · 10 answers · asked by {*Naomi*} 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have five children. Our oldest will be 13 in June. I agree, your mom and dad are not giving you the freedom you deserve. Our oldest goes to bed between 9:00-9:30 on school nights and on the weekends he can stay up until he falls asleep. He turns in by 10:30-11:00. He does stay home alone on occasions, but not for too long. I am a stay-at-home mom, so there is usually no reason for him to be alone. Talk to your mom and dad about this, but don't be rude. I hope they give you the freedom you need. You are growing up and it sounds like they can't accept that. They just love you and they are trying to protect you, but going a little overboard. Good luck!
2007-01-19 14:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by hotmama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have plenty of time for all those things. I wanted to do all of those things when I was 13 and I just turned 25 and I'm thinking about having children and I won't allow them to do the same things you're wanting to do. First off your not even a teenager and second off you don't pay for your own clothes, and third you're still a child and believe it or not your parents know what's best for you. What you should do is follow their rules and prove that you're responsible and I bet they'll ease up just a little bit. But you have to be responsible. Say for instance you stay up until 12 midnight on a school night and you have a big test the next day. You better make sure you bring on and A or a B ont this test because that determines how responsible you are. Good luck!
2007-01-19 14:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by step b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents have the right idea by laying down rules for you to follow. Personally I think some of these should be negotiable like your bed times and some not like doing whatever you want. That ones not even reasonable. Perhaps you can sit down with them and maturely discuss the reasons why you should have a later bed time or be allowed to stay home alone. Good luck with this, I'm hoping they really listen to you. Peace :-)
Read Dr. Phils web page on "Getting What You Want"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/305
2007-01-19 14:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear my parents give me no freedom,
You have your entire life to do what it is what you want to do, wear and be. Growing into the teen years is very difficult not only for you but your parents as well. Your parents obviously love you and care what happens to you. The parents that let their kids run all over the place and do what they want, are the uncaring ones. Please appreciate what you have. You have what alot of other kids don`t, and that`s love. What you can do is sit down with your parents and discuss your situation with them. Those are the people you should be talking to...maybe they`ll compromise a little. Good luck
2007-01-19 14:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Robyn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't stress over it. When I was your age, my parents were like that as well. Slowly, they'll start to loosen up more. It's just that you are their child and they care about you. I know sometimes it seems really extreme, but you just have to try and ignore it and be glad that they care about you. Better than having no one care where you are or what your doing. Trust me, it's just their job to set rules like that, no matter how extreme it sounds. xP Besides, you'll have the rest of your life to do whatever you want to do when you get out on your own, and I think that when you get out on your own, you'll miss them and they're weird, outrageous rules. I know that I will.
2007-01-19 14:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mizuki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have parents, and rules for a reason. If you think you know it all, get a job, pay your own way and live a happy life. Parents have rules for reasons, we don't do it just to make our children mad. It would be ALOT easier to just let kids do whatever they want, but because we love our children we have rules.
2007-01-19 14:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by FANNY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are doing their job, and from the sounds of it, doing their job right. Obviously you have some freedom if you are on the internet. Appreciate that they set guidelines because they love you and want you to grow up to be a responsible adult.
2007-01-19 14:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by dancin thru life 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
thats the typical parent type when it comes to your age...alot of parents just want their kid to be safe and just be in their bubble so they don't have to stress so much over their children...you should feel somewhat lucky that you have parents who care for you..alot of parents are starting to let their children on their own and who knows what will happend to them..be thankful that you have parents and just follow the rules until your maturity age grows,then you will feel that your parents are giving you a break.but from ages 11-15 mostly thats when parents are "overprotective" on their kids.
2007-01-19 14:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents care about you. Maybe they're scared about losing their baby. You're lucky. It's better to have overprotective parents than under protective parents that let you get really hurt.
2007-01-19 14:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by just wants to know 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy your parents care so much about you and they are still together after all these years.
2007-01-19 14:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋