I need some advise!?

Question

Latley it seems everything is falling apart...my mom n i get in fights all the time.. i barely get to see my dad anymore...I barely get to see my boyfriend anymore..my brother is a total JURK! I just wanna get out of this house! School sucks im failing one of my classes and i feel so dumb..I hate the fact that i regret being born.. I just don't know what to do anymore..im confused about life... any advise??

Answer 1

I'm guessing you're a teenager. Don't sweat the small stuff. Everything will pass. It's all part of just being a teenager - you think your parents don't understand and you end up in fights with them over things that don't really matter in the big picture. Fact is they went through the same stuff and when they tell you not to do something it's likely because they know better and are actually trying to save you some grief in their own way. They're not perfect and may make mistakes but they're just trying to look out for you even though it may not seem like it at times. It'll be one of those things you realize way down the road when you look back on certain events - it'll all become clear.

Stay in school, study hard and if you're having trouble with something ask for help - that's what the teacher's for - either they should be able to help you or they can help find you a tutor - maybe you have a friend that can help you out. Remember the only dumb questions are the ones that aren't asked. btw, it's jErk and adviCe - not to be picky but trying to help.

Don't worry about your boyfriend, there are plenty of guys out there, if the one your with is a knob, give him the boot, either he'll come crawling back or you'll move on to something better. There's no cure for the last one like the next one.

Don't worry about your brother, they can be jerks, it's their job as a brother to be a pain in the @ss (I'm a brother and I'm sure my sister had issues with me back in the day - I know I did with her but now we're very good friends). She used to fight with our mom all the time too and now they're good friends as well.

It's all just a phase and it will pass as you mature so don't worry about this stuff now - truth is, the high school & college years can be the best time of your life and will most likely be the time with the least amount of worries so enjoy them while you can.

Once you grow up, get a job, buy a house etc. some of the fun in life gets restricted - now you can get away with a part time job with virtually no responsibility and blow your money on whatever crap you want to a certain extent - later on you have bills to pay, rent/mortgage, vacations are much shorter if you can manage to get away at all...

You may not realize it but your life now is probably about as carefree as it can get so enjoy it...don't sweat the small stuff.

Answer 2

Life can be a b*tch.
Trust me, i've been in your position many times.
You need to believe in yourself and keep your head up.
You can't lay on the "i'm depressed" thing.
Because, it gets you no where other than thinking you're even more depressed.
You should try and get your grades up.
It'll probably make you feel better; and you wont have to repeat the class.
I wish I would have done that these last 2 terms.
Never be afraid to ask for help.
As much as you may hate going to school everyday.. Your teachers went to college all that time and that's what they are there for. If you have a problem or can't get your grades up i'd talk to your guidence counsiler and get some help, maybe switch classes.

Just try to be happy and not let anything bring you down.
Seriously, it's hard.
But I got commiteded and I was like
I AM GOING TO BE HAPPY.
and for almost 3 months I was happy.
I dont get along w/ my parents so I know how you feel.

Do something, like helping someone else. And they'll feel better, and you'll feel better. Or do something for yourself. Take some me time. Try to get along w/ your mom and have some alone time w/ ur man.

GOOD LUCK. sorry so long! hope it helps.

Answer 3

First off , slow down breathe. Life has a habit of doing that. Even when you get older , and your the parent. And as far as your brother , we all are jerks. but then again so are our sisters. lol
As we get older there will be different things that set us off, So you need to find a way to release your stress, (walking, running, painting, working out or something. When life gets stressful you need a little time just for you , no mom, no brother , no boyfriend. Yeah not seeing your boyfriend may be adding to the stress, but remember you have about 50 or 60 years to spend with boyfriends etc. As far as school, just do your best if you try and fail that doesn't mean you are dumb. These years should be a happy time, dances, proms, etc. What can we do to help you with these classes. I am married to a teacher, most teacher don't want their kids to fail, they will help if you just ask. during class it may be hard, because of the other 20 kids , Just ask them. As far as just wanting to get out of the house. The street will not be any better. If you relax some and begin getting help with school things at home may not seem as bad... If you would just like to chat just let me know.

Answer 4

You should confront your problems. Put them all out on the table with your family. Talk with your mom instead of fighting. Call your boyfriend and talk just to talk. Ask some of your teachers for tutoring, and maybe try to like school more. Life is very confusing and its a bumpy trip if you take it alone don't fight with your family. Family is always there for you. If you takes life's journey alone it will be hard. You were born for a reason. And you aren't dumb, I'm sure you are very smart you just have to apply yourself, and look down inside and get the strength to become smarter. You are only dumb if you put it in your head.

Answer 5

Most people have felt like you MANY times in their lives. WHen it feels so heavy that you don't think you have the energy to continue... I would seak out a counsellor, one at school or get your mom to see if she can arrange it. It always feels ebtter to talk to someone.

I know it seems like it will never get better, but it will. You will be happy in life. Your mom won't seem like she is from Mars. Your dad will come back into your life, and you will be done school too...

Part of growing up is learning how to handle all this stress... I don't think it ever goes away.

You need to find something that you totally love and will feel great about. Give to yourself. Make yourself feel good.

Good Luck - it will get better

Answer 6

i have been throught that but most of the time there has been something bothering me so much that everything happens seems so horrible. if that is the case you need to stop worring about that one thing and not take everythig so hard. if not then instead of fighting with your mom you can just talk to her every time you are hurt ot buged about something instead. maybe your dad is a little busy right now and if you miss him try talking to him all the time and maybe it wont seem like you barely see him. when it comes to your boyfriend if it is your fault that you barely see him than try to make time for him and if not than like your dad try talking to him on the phone all the time so you wont miss him. when it comes to your brother--all brothers are jurks just ignore him. if you are failing your class you can just talk to your teacher about extra credit or get some helop with that class. EVERYONE regrets being born time to time. i have felt like that so many times in my life but you should just not let things get to you. when you are upset or mad--just lie down, close your eyes and consintrate only on your breathing and dont think of anything else. if you cant not thing of anything than remember times or things that made you laugh.

Answer 7

Join a sports club or go to a gym to work out and get the stress out of your system , maybe you can meet your boyfriend at the gym and spend more time together that way.Good luck !stay at school get it done you might need a tutor.

Answer 8

if u are 16 or older, there is a way to move out. You are able to legally move out and live with ur friend or relative if you have a job though. You need to prove that you will have responsibility in paying for an apartment and taking care of yourself.

Answer 9

ok. what you need to do is one...ignore your brother..siblings are there to torment you. then, try and make peace with your mom and try and figure out why you guys are always fighting, there has to be some reason behind it. then, communicate with your dad and try and fix a time for you two to spend some time together. and then about school. just ask your teachers for help, their always willing to help...always =] and if one doesnt want to help, then keep on asking until you get one thats willing too.

Hope it helped!

xoxo tacooo xoxo

Answer 10

Ask yourself - "What is it that I want to give to others and what do I want to get out of life?" You only have one turn at this experience - Take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves - and go for it. If you live an honest life you will be a joy to yourself and everybody around you!!!