Hi. My girlfriend is bulimic but denies it, and im at a lost at how to support her/help her out. Five months ago she stopped throwing up and had been doing good ever since. But up until a few weeks ago when she started her negative body image moods again i offered help, but in doing so made her worse and she is back tp purging. I'm really stressed out and scared and i don't know the best course of action to be supportive, anyone?
2007-01-19 13:58:08 · 4 answers · asked by elnovisto 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The sad fact about people with eating disorders is that no matter what you tell them, they will still have low self-esteem. What you can do when she starts insulting herself is to tell her what you find attractive about her--and it doesn't have to be a superficial feature, compliment her personality by being specific--give a quality and what she did to show that to you. Tell her you care about her, and don't mention weight, or what she's eating, ever. Even what a normal person would consider a compliment, like, "You look healthy" can be morphed into "You look fat" by someone with an eating disorder. Send her the message that her self-worth isn't determined by her weight. You can tell her parents you're worried, but unfortunately, someone can't recover from an eating disorder until they are ready.
Here's a helpful website on eating disorders (so you can educate yourself about them), and here's the specific page for how you can deal with a loved one suffering from one: http://somethingfishy.org/helping/whatyoucando.php
I hope your girlfriend gets better.
2007-01-19 14:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mai 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is a psycho you really need to consider if you are ready for such high maintenance
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2007-01-19 14:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by cubcowboysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She will only get better with professional help! You cannot save her. She has to have professional help. She also has to want o get better, and get help. No one can force her. She has to "want" it or it won't help.
2007-01-19 14:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
please tell someone, like her parents. If you love her, you'll help her. Good luck.
2007-01-19 14:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by tadpole 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋