I have a BIG issue! My boyfriend's mother is beyond involved in our relationship. She has an EXTREMELY crude humor and disrespects me and embarrasses me infront of his family constantly. I just shrug it off and try to ignore it because I love him deeply and want to get along with his family including his ill-manered mother. But, recently she totally crossed the line by saying something sexually related about me and her son's relationship. She also put me in a horrid situation by telling me not to tell him. However I did because that was too personal and I felt he needed to know she was crossing the line. Anyway, I don't want to live with that the rest of my life. I would be able to if I felt he completely had my back but, he doesn't all the way. He expects me to get over it because I know how she is. And yes, I know how she is, but is that correct for him to tell me to deal with it the rest of my life? That will eventually create problems.I'm stuck.Should I stay or go?
2007-01-19 13:57:37 · 5 answers · asked by Fins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
him telling you to deal with that more than like means that you will have to put up with it as opposed to someone who would not subject you to that. put as much distance between her and you - don't go to his house at any time for example. Perhaps if you cool the relationship a bit he will either support you more or dump you an either way you will be out of the predicament. sometimes we may love someone but not be able to have a relationship and in time we fine someone to love who loves us enough in return to take our side in situations like this!!
2007-01-19 14:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest girlfriend you should go because it seems as if you have a mama's boy. A real man will stand up to his mother if he's definding the woman he loves. Sweetheart you have to grow a back bone and not allow her to embarrass and disrespect you. Plus you have to look and your boyfriend and question what kind of man is he if he allows his mother to do these things knowing that they hurt you. Get out while you can if you don't see this problem being resolved. You shouldn't have to suffer the rest of your life because someone want to be an ***.
2007-01-19 22:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Make it clear that you are there to stay with her son. But, if you can't handle the situation you haven't much choice. Your boyfriend needs to stand up for you also.
2007-01-19 22:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is you boyfriends mother, not your mother in law. Don't go near her and don't invite her to your home. He can go to his family gatherings without you. You can go to a movie with a girlfriend. If he does ask you to marry him, he needs to agree to how much contact there will be with this rude woman.
2007-01-19 22:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father is like this.
I guess family is family and it's something you'll have to put up.
I'm sorry. =(
Better luck w/ her.
2007-01-19 22:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋