i am not being funny but sometimes?

Question

i feel like just walking out and leaving my kids, i am not always happy here and they give me so many problems. They never help me round the house, i have to nag my son for hours to get up in the morining, i hate it, i get letters off the school hes always late and dosent, always go pretends hes ill. olivia has been excluded form school for bad behaviour. i have their friends sleeping alot. some are rude. i never get a break from taylor. i wuld never do it but i feel it like it sometimes. i thnk why should i bover i am doing a useless job, look out they are turning out.

Answer 1

i was a bad *** child too. I turned out good. My mother use to wipe my behind. Try to reward them when they are good and punish them when they are bad. pack up toys, take away the phone, pack up the game systems, no tv, or no computer. You just have to stick to the punishment. As long as you know you have done your best, you havn't failed as a parent. start fresh with a new attitude. tell them you're not playing with them

Answer 2

Hi you need to show some dicipline and if you dont soon they will be walking all over you more than what they are doing now. I know you probably dont always let them get away wit stuff but if you cant be bothered this is where they are getting it from.
Just get your children down and have a serious talk to them, get some rules going and if they dont stick to these rules then they are punished simple as that. If my children were misbehaving at school when they get home they would be in big trouble and certainly wont be having any sleep overs.
Im sure some moters feel like this sometimes but running away isnt the answer if you want your children to behave for you.
Some kids never help around the house, but if you wan them to why dont you make them do chores, but if they are hanging around with the wrong people at school them maybe why they are are acting this way. When your son pretend he is ill. have you talked to him and asked him why maybe he is having problems. Obviously the school isnt dealing with your childrens behavious and letting you get on with it. Why dont you go into the school and have a word with the headmaster and see if you can sort something out.
You arent doing a bad job, but its the youth of today that is the problem and i bet its not just you having problems. But set some rules and let them no you are angry when they have done something wrong.

Answer 3

I understand that bringing up children can be tough sometimes and the problem with your family at the moment is that the children have not been set boundaries to respect. The children do not respect you and neither do their friends.

You can put your foot down now and think "you have to be cruel to be kind" - demand respect, impose sanctions and rules and take away privilidges and stop the friends from sleeping over.

You can contact social services who will assess the family and give you a rest for a couple of weeks by arranging the children to go away for the weekend.

You can get the older children to move out to live with a family member.

You can spend more time with them, maybe they want attention.

You have a range of options. Try not to let the children ruin your life and make you miserable.

Answer 4

I hear you!! I'm a single mother of 5 children. My oldest turns 20 tomorrow. Next is my second son, he's 17 in March, next I have my princess, she's 13 in February, fourth is my angel daughter, she died 5 years ago in a car accident, and last but not least a third son, who turns 10 in May. My oldest was always destroying things, stealing, very violent. He was constantly being brought home by the police. I didn't think I would ever get through it. And just when he started to stay out of trouble, my next son in line stepped up. WOW!!!! Did he ever step up! Extreme violence!! I'm so worried about him and his future. He has so much anger. It's frustrating most days. My daughter is still 12. Not 12 going on 20, she's really 12. She's still innocent. I'm worried about her innocense being taken from her before its time. After my daughter died ALL of my perspectives changed. I just looked at things differently. The most painful thing I have ever or will ever do was burying my child. Love them. God forbid that anything would ever happen to them, but once they're gone, they are gone!! Tell them every single day that you love them. Even if they don't say it back, tell them. The last thing you should tell your kids is that you love them. You may not get a chance later. Later could be forever.
Don't worry so much. If you taught them the things that they need to know to be useful and productive citizens, let them learn. Some of our best lessons learned are the ones that hurt the most. Trust that they will make good choices when it really matters. I mean REALLY matters. Right now they are testing their limits. It will get better. Just have faith in your parenting and the things you have taught them.
Don't do their laundry, don't cook for them, don't give them money, don't do anything for them. When they complain tell them that when they start helping you, you will start to help them again. They are taking advantage of you. You need to be the adult - the parent.
When they skip school, skip cooking supper that night for them. Skip giving them their allownace. Don't give them money unless they EARN it. Set down some rules, it's never too late.
Tell your kids that if their friends won't be respectful then they can't come over, definately not to stay over.
So don't run, it will get better. Eventually. Beleive in yourself, be consistant and positive.

Answer 5

I think you will find that later on in life they will appreciate you but for now, perhaps you all need to get out of a rut, try to do things together. If you can afford it, try to find a martial arts school in your area that belongs to the atrium group - atriumsociety.com I think it is - which teaches motivation and has been shown to be excellent for kids. Ask them if there is a problem at school since neither of them want to go.
you need to set aside time for yourself as well as for the kids to reward yourself. If they are old enough, leave them at hom - or get a a sitter and go to a movie some night, or even take time off and go during the day when they are in school. It does get better although it seems hard now. Perhaps it might even help to try to get some free counselling to help you deal with that.

Answer 6

Show them you are the boss. Discipline is something kids crave, even though they hate it at the time. Take away everything like TV, computers, time with friends, telephones, until they earn them back by giving you the respect you deserve as a mother. If you don't feel up to this seek family counseling. They won't want to go at first, but they will probably warm up to it. It can make a world of difference.

Answer 7

you should be in control of the situation and the household environment. donot walk out on them thats ridiculous, wont life wont feel better in the long run.
your the parent so i think you should have things under control and the way you want it to be. this sort of problems only arise after a long time of no displining. it will take alot of time and hard work to fix things, but your going to have to do it and making it suitable for the way your family is now. you have to, otherwise you and your kids are going to suffer and have really bad futures, only you can change this.
my gosh, my parents never have allowed anyone sleeping over, and i would never let anyone throw food around in my house, thats too wrong.
i agree with mirindaa, this doesnt mean there bad.

Answer 8

From another mother who feels the same way at times. We just get overwhelmed by our kids. Mine drive me crazy everyday. I have six in total. Four of them live at home with us. Our sixteen year old lives with his Grandmother and my thirteen yr old lives with her father in Minnesota. The four that are at home are 15, 9, 7 and 4 yrs old. My 15 yr old sounds like your son. Never wants to get up in the morning always late to school. I just have to take a time out and get a breather. When the older 3 are at school, I take the 4 yr old with me and we go to the store. I take him to Dollar Tree buy him a couple of toys. And then I find something that will help me relax. I spend time on the computer. I will find anything to help me with the stress. I hope that you will find something that will help you deal with your stress. Just remember that your children love you, even if you may not think so at times. I sometimes think my children don't have any respect for me at all but at the end of the day. They hug me and kiss me and say " I love you, Mom ".

Answer 9

If you think is enough than do something different.
No more little nice mother, try being the my house my rules mother.
It should be such that they should be the one wanted to walk out of the house.
Good luck and take some advice from the people here.

Answer 10

Just remember you are the adult in your house and what you say goes. Sounds like your kids need a bit of tough love. Say no to sleepovers if you don't feel like letting them go ahead. Is there a Dad to help out?