I dont understand whats going on,need insite.?

Question

Very mutual attraction,get along fantastic,get close quickly, and relationship progressing, nicely,then she cuts it off,not a word.Then we talk a few times a few weeks later,short convos,everytime,she starts to open up and get close to me,she shuts down and runs.Shes not married nor seeing anyone else,I just dont understand what is going on.I want to save this relationship but dont know how to get thru to her,and get her to stop running....any insite? am i missing something?

Answer 1

Sounds like she has some trust issues - maybe a bad relationship in the past? Try talking to her and see if she'll open about it (why she keeps pulling away). It may just be that she's afraid of getting hurt.

Answer 2

The first thing that comes to mind is buyer's remorse. I'm gonna try and explain this as easily as possible; Buyer's remorse is when you venture into the area of foreplay with a woman, but don't sleep with her. See the secret of women is that they're just as interested in sex as men are, but all women are afraid of being labeled a "slu*" (Which in my opinion is a horrible term, and should never be uttered to any woman) If you go to far, but don't go all the way, the woman will look back on the experience you had together when she's not in the hightened emotional state she was as her being a "slu*" and run away for fear as being labeled as that. so the solution? reframe it. She needs to be chasing you, that'll make her feel safe again. Stop chasing, act like you've lost interest, flirt with other women. This will make her feel like your not out to "get" her, and invoke some jealousy on the plus side. Then, when you're relatively sure she's pursuing you, start the relationship again. I've done this several times and it works.

"Don't be yourself, be your best self"

-Raven

Answer 3

It sounds like she discovered or was told something about you that has scared her.

I suggest that you just be forward and tell her just what you have asked here. Don't be afraid of rejection, take your own destiny into your hands and ask the questions. Don't be surprised if she doesn't answer but, be encouraged that you will have had your say and are not afraid to talk.

It is good that you still have contact and communicate with her. That is half the battle.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Women are frustratingly complex. It could be nothing, it could be everything. As a man, you have the privilege of being excluded from every significant thought that goes through her mind. Your natural instict is to nurture her, but what about you? Do not ask her "what's wrong?" You're inviting the inevitable "nothing". Show her you're paying attention by saying something like, "you've been really distant lately". Women feel like they have to explain. She likely needs to feel like you care enough to chase her around, (oh, the perils of being a man), but keep in mind that you deserve enough respect to know where you stand.

Answer 5

Obviously, you are. I don't know why she wouldn't just break up with you. It's very misleading not to tell you anything. You should try and meet her face to face. You could probably catch her if she tried to run away then.

Answer 6

obviously you did something or she lost interest. Maybe you need to try and talk to her to find out what's the matter with her.

Answer 7

shes scared. she probaly sees the relationship going some where and sometimes it scares us off my advice let her miss you works everytime

Answer 8

I am missing alot of detail here - you have not stated what your marital status is ..... so do not know where you are coming from.

Give her respectful space.....if interested, am sure she will let you know.

Answer 9

nope dont know whats in that girls head. maybe its not you?

Answer 10

she doesn't want you anymore accept it and move on